Ok ladies, this is a question that 90% of all men would love to know the answer too.
My wife and I have been married for 13 yrs and she is not very interested in sex. She doesn't like oral sex (give or receive). She will not try anything new when I ask here to. I have tried toys, candles, diamonds, etc., but nothing works.
She tells me that all her friends are the same way.
What's up with married women?
2007-11-22 18:24:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Got me, I'd like to know what's up with married MEN who don't want sex. I'm there, daily, but he's not. Guess it depends on the person and the person's age. Buy me a diamond, maybe I'll just trade him in for you! LOL
2007-11-22 19:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by amyguesswhat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all of her friends are the same way, but not everyone is! I have been married for 13 years and I still have LOTS of drive! However, I did go through a time when I didn't want to have sex. I have 4 kids, and when they were really little (up to about age 4) I was too tired to have sex. I had it for him, but didn't really want to. Then the sex drive came back when I started getting sleep again! Another time, when I had gained weight and had a low self-esteem, I did not want to have sex. I felt unattractive and didn't want him to touch me or look at me. Now, I have lost the weight and my sex drive is better than ever! See that there is not something else going on. I would say almost for sure that it is not just because you have been married for a while.
2016-05-25 02:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an untrue generalization. I think there are a lot of husbands I know that are working all the time, too busy for sex, workaholic types, so it's not always the woman. Also, I would suggest, instead of trying toys, candles, diamonds, instead helping with housework and the children (if you have any). I think a lot of times if there is a problem it could be related to just being tired from doing a lot of chores and child care. Helping out would help with your wife's possible tiredness and any possible resentment she might have if she feels you aren't pulling your fair share in the marriage. Good luck!
2007-11-22 18:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You lack mystery in your relationship.
When people are "Courting", they are actively discovering new information and sensations about each other. Each is a new and unresolved riddle.
After a man and woman are married, and in you case, for a substantial period of time, they know "too much" about each other for that spack of mystery to motivate them.
Love without mystery is another plateau in human interaction. It cn be very deep and positive, but it lacks that quality of the unknown that is the magic of youth, or at lease the magic of the romantic quest.
Couples tend to "blend" into each other, losing their individuality and appeal. Your bed room becomes a shared non-expression of ech other and not an accurate one of either of you.
Just like eating the exact same food, ever day, becomes boring and causes a oss of appetite, the lack of privacy in a relationship causes the same situation.
There is no easy or general solution. Each couple has to adjust to a new way of perception of each other, or not. If you two can become yourselves again you might be able to recdiscover attraction. If you can't, at least you have a chance to find your own personlities again.
2007-11-22 18:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that. Are you giving her lots of attention outside of the bedroom without trying to have sex with her? Are you helping her out around the house with household chores and the kids? Are you being romantic towards her instead of asking "Do you want to or not". I have to say I hear a lot of complaints about this subject as well and I do believe that the woman would go out of her way to get that ring on her finger that she is willing to do whatever it takes even if she doesn't enjoy doing oral. Then when the ring is on the finger they no longer enjoy it. I think that is just wrong because if they did not like it then they should of been honest and said so before the I do.
2007-11-22 18:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I will tell you something is not only married woman also young single woman have this problems is called hormone problems like the gynecologist told me allot of woman have this problem because of the birth control pills or hormone problems which it could be checked by a gynecologist not only married woman some woman don't have no urges for sex because of allot of reason but mostly hormonal problems which got to be checked
2007-11-22 18:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about other women, but I love sex, especially in a long term relationship as it just gets better as time goes on. Hope that helped a little. Not all women are the same darlin.
2007-11-22 18:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haha I am sorry but your wife and friends are in their own special category.
Hubby is very very happy whether giving or receiving and honey I ain't had no complaints even after 10+ years of marriage :)
2007-11-22 18:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's completely untrue, married women still enjoy sex. Being married doesn't eliminate one's sex drive, it's all about using one's imagination so that things don't get boring.
2007-11-22 18:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by sxysweet619 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she's bored with having the same guy all the time, the fact that you treat her like a whore doesn't help diamonds in exchange for sex?? You probably don't do 'women's jobs' such as housework and so she's turn off by your disrespect.
2007-11-22 18:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋