Guys who date someone ONLY because they want sex?

Question

What is your opinion of them?

Twilight my question is in response to a few Q&As I read here today. Tera pulled the trigger to shoot this actually :)

LOL! the thought of sex comes up for women too!

Answer 1

If you are expected to pay for everything lock stock and barrel all the time you are just being used.

If the choice is between dating a user and paying for an escort, Id rather be guaranteed a good time than messed over. Which is what my question which presumably you are responding to is about. In turn it was posted as a response to someone who seemed to think she had a god given right to be waited on hand and foot and have everything provided for her while offering nothing in return.

Hope this clears the context.

Answer 2

Some are gracious about understanding that they might not get sex, some are less gracious, and some should just be looking for a prostitute, I suppose. I swear I don't understand the reason some guys will get so upset and feel so cheated if they don't get sex in exchange for paying for a date or two. I guess like Twilight said, these guys feel used. But hopefully they keep in mind that dating is also a process of getting to know someone, (on more levels than just sexually!)- and that many people actually would like to know a person better before they jump into the sack with that person. And sometimes, during the dating process, a woman figures out that she really would rather not take the relationship to that level, and thereby terminates the relationship before it goes any further. This is NOT to be confused with "using someone." Sure there are probably a few women out there who habitually use people for personal gain, but it's definitely not all, or even most. However, I suppose if a person has had an experience or two with this sort of woman, he's bound to think that "all women are like that." Tragic, and a false conclusion, but understandable to an extent. If a man indeed finds he has had numerous experiences with women who have used him, he may want to stop dating for awhile, and try to figure out why he is involved in a pattern of attraction to or from abusive or exploitive women. There's something to it that needs to be addressed, and if it is not, he is likely to keep finding himself in the same repetitive pattern, and hating and/or blaming "all" women for it.

Answer 3

I think it's OK as long as they haven't deceived the person they're dating about what their intentions are, and both parties agree that's the arrangement.

I know it's hard to find a woman who will agree to be a permanent fcukbuddy but they do exist. There is no justification for lying about your feelings to get something out of someone, ever.

Answer 4

How do you KNOW that's all they want?

Before you accept the date? (you can always iron-out the character of the character that's talking with you, couldn't you... if the situation isn't to your liking)... Do you always say yes, and then are disturbed that their feeling/kissing making moves & whatever?

Sometimes people date because they think the other one is flat-out fun.. other times, because they simply want them around, and are magnetized to wanting to be closer no matter what/where.. and speaking as a man, there are times when a woman is called, because she's essentially a "sure thing" for what you're talking about.

I DOUBT a man wanting only this, would reach out to a woman that there's NO CHANCE of meeting that end, right?

Like this Lioness woman, above... you know there's a chance of the moon/stars and a little laughter/alchohol & seduction all hit the spot at once... (whether the guy is ready or not!!!)

Answer 5

This is not exclusive to men. There are times a woman only wants to have sex without strings attached also. We have different needs at different times, so you can go through a phase where you really don't want to deal with the opposite sex but still want to have regular sex. This wouldn't be called "dating" though, it would be called having a booty partner...which is fine, as long as there is no deceit involved and both are on the same page.

EDIT:

Not sure what all this hostility against people who just want to have sex is about. Sex may represent different things to different people at different times...as long as there is no dishonesty involved, I'm not sure what the problem would be.

EDIT:

Why is it a character flaw if you just want to have sex?

Answer 6

a lot of us would not be born if some guys in the past did not want only sex. but every person guy or girl who wants to only have sex after a date have different attitudes, personalities, needs, and so on... so i would need a detailed example of someone who does this.

Answer 7

well I will say women also date a guy just because they think he is hot and want sex

of course they also act under the delusion that he is going to follow her into happily ever after and make everything okay for her for the rest of her life too cause any guy that looks so hot must be the answer to all her shortcomings

In real life EVERYBODY is just another person dealing with their own stuff
stereotyping is just another not being able to see

having read terra's answer I need to return and add that not all women are as I just posted

Answer 8

Women do the same thing. It is the way it is, hopefully I'll find someone who wants more soon.

Answer 9

I dislike this type of guys. Like they think they can buy anything with their money. Or just for having fun! What's the big deal about it anyway? I guess he is kind of cowardly person because he doesn't face his problems and running away by having 15m. of fun!

Answer 10

I don't think that is likely to be the case; even creeps need some kind of human companionship. If all I guy wanted was sex - pure and simple - then it would surely be more cost-effective to hire a prostitute.