My girlfriend says she needs a break, and time for herself to be independent. She swears up and down she doesn't have anyone else, and she doesn't want anyone else. She loves me more than ever, and she wants to be with me in the end. However, we just can't be together right now. What does all this mean?!
2007-11-22 17:33:54 · 19 answers · asked by Shawn M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it means that she has some issue with the relationship and she either not brave enough to tell you or does"nt want to for some reason.if you love someone then you only have to think about what it would be like with out them and feel sick.love its a word used to lightly it makes the real thing almost pas you by cause it sounds the same coming out of any ones mouth.love to me is when you care more about that person then yourself and giving up something for them means only getting something from them.love shouldn't hurt and unless you have a problem that your not sharing,time a part shouldn't be apart of it
2007-11-22 17:45:13 · answer #1 · answered by ldhotlipps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is a situation and you are in her face give her space let her alone and if love is true she will be back it maybe a way to tell you she is fond of you and doesn't want to loose you give her space and carry on with life in the mean time if you meet someone else so be it you cant hang around on a whim be a man give her the space she wants and just take it as it comes don't put your life on hold if you do persist in the relationship you will loose her for sure Dave
2007-11-22 19:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Psycho Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship goes through stages.Yours seem to go through the break up stage: It's a trial of being away from each other, backing off for awhile and see where this is going.
She needs to see for herself.If you push her to stay with you, she may decide you are not the one.Give her the space she needs and let her know you will be available when she makes up her mind.This may be good for you too. You may realize it was something you needed to see from a distance.
So, get out and be with your friends you forgot you had and have a little fun.
good luck
2007-11-22 18:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by My kids' mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls use this technique to get out of a relationship when they don't want to have to tell the guy frankly that they want to get out of the relationship. It's really not fair to the guy because he gets his hopes up and goes through needless (or the wrong kind of) emotional distress.
Of course, she may actually just need a breather from a relationship. Sit down and talk with her. Tell her that if she wants to break up, then you would rather that she be honest with you. Ask her to tell you exactly what she is feeling. Be understanding and sympathetic, because if she isn't being honest with you, it's because she's afraid of your reaction.
2007-11-22 17:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pip 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just exactly what she said. Really it isn't a bad idea on her part because what if she decided to stay with you then she will not know how to live independantly by herself. I know it hurts but things happen for a reason. Let her go and if it was meant to be then she will appear back in your life. You might find someone else that you have more in commen with while she is taking this break.
2007-11-22 17:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi the same thing happened in my life also. My guy cant concentrate on his career if he spend lot of time with me. So he asked for a small gap. Initially it hurted me a lot. But if i argue with him, the relationship may break. So i decided & still we are not tat much close as before, but still we love each other like anything, just speaking over phone daily. Tats set.
So dont worry. She might think on some other aspects like career, family or anything.
But one thing, keep in touch. Dont stop contacting.
I think my msg ll help you, since am also sailing in the same boat rite now.
2007-11-22 18:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest .. it kinda sounds like the next thing might be ... "let's be friends". But know one knows .. but her.
Since she has asked for a break .. give her space. Let her have her space - and don't bother her much during this time. If you don't give her the space she needs right now .. then she may just TAKE the space ... on her own.
Do this for her. See what transpires. Time, will tell all.
2007-11-22 17:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she's just being honest. depending on how young she is she probably feels like a relationship is weighing her down to do what she really wants with her life. give her the space and time she asked for. it sucks but it wll be the true test to your relationship. just try to understand where she's coming from. sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders and is just looking out for herself in the real world.
2007-11-22 18:25:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Did she say? Was it her parents?
Pushing her at this point will only drive her away, so back off. Don't call, don't stalk her, don't beg her - just move on. Act like you don't care until you hear from her.
She will either miss you and come crawling back after a few weeks or she will just move on, too.
Joy to you!!
2007-11-22 17:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she just needs a bit of time and space.
It's like the butterfly, hold her too close and you will smother her,
Let her go and she will come back.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 22:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bezza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋