Why does this only apply to "dating". When you invite a friend to dinner or lunch you go DUTCH (even if its a new friend you just met and you're eating for the first time). Your friend will never say "Wait you invited ME.. YOU should pay!". When its NOT about DATING this rule seems to GO OUT THE WINDOW...
I don't get why women (or even men in this case) have to take situations that would normally be SIMPLE and make them more COMPLEX just because 'sex' might occur.
Silly isnt it??? Silly.....
2007-11-22 16:36:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I think people are missing my point. My point is that THE ISSUE OF MONEY ONLY COMES UP IN DATING. NOT IN OTHER SITUATIONS.. WHY IS THIS??????????
2007-11-22 16:48:17 · update #1
sorry..but id never expect the man to pay...
at least not for my half...now if he wished too i would have no problem.
after all he is trying to be a gentleman.
but i would bring enough money to pay for my dinner...his dinner...and cab fare home.
Why? i'll be daMned if im gonna be stuck washing dishes to pay for a meal coz the guy might decide to dine and dash!
as far as sex goes...whther he wants it or not..is actually not his decision..
if i have a feeling he wants sex and im not really enjoying his company..then i kiss him goodnight and leave him on the front steps so he can leave.
if i am enjoying his company but still do not wish to have sex with him..i just ply him with enough alcohol to make him pass out so he cant make any advances.
Im aware its devious. but i have to protect myself.
ooh it seems someone disagrees with what i would do...
ok fine then..ill just slip him a mickey and let him pass out quickly....
and then as devious as i am...ill drag him to my room...take off all his clothes get in bed with him and when he wakes up let him think something happened!
how's that for warped and evil!?
oh but dont worry...he wont be able to harm me..once he comes too...he will realize he has been tied up!
muahahahahaha!
2007-11-22 20:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If I invite someone to Lunch or Dinner... I am ready to pay... Since I am the one who invited and I have no idea what the other person's budget may be like... If I choose the place, and it may be a place the other person normally can't afford to go to... I understand it is my responsibility to treat the other...
If someone invites me to eat out... Of course I can accept or refuse... But if the person insists then I expect that person to pay... After all it wasn't on my budget and I had other plans...
2007-11-23 11:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually i offer to pay what I've taken. But most of them never agrees like how come a lady pays and he is the man!
It depends if a regular friend asked me to go out with, so i pay for me, or i invite him for ice cream. But if one asked me to go some where to explain him a lesson although he attended the lecture with me ( he had the same right i got ) so i let him pay.
Some men think it's not a good thing to let her pay.
2007-11-22 19:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by The critic flower. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it comes down to this: unless you know the financial situation of the person you are asking out on a date, it's not a good idea to assume that this person can afford to pay for half the date. And if you ask them, upon first meeting them, the status of their finances, or you ask them if they'd like to split costs, you may be putting that person in a potentially embarrassing or awkward situation if they have little money and are just barely getting by. Would YOU want to explain this sort of thing to someone you just met? You don't know, upon first meeting someone, if they have money or they have very little...so if you ask someone out, you should probably, as a courtesy, expect to pay for the date. Once you get to know the person a little bit better, finances may be something that is eventually brought up, and if at that time it is realized that the person can afford to help pay for dates, (and you plan to continue dating), most would probably agree that it's fair to split costs, or take turns paying for dates.
2007-11-22 16:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
i'm no longer a guy, yet i visit place this obtainable, the guy who asked might desire to might desire to pay. That way the guy isn't paying, and neither is the female. Their equivalent. And, yeah, a woman ought to grant each and every now and then if that's the guy who constantly asks, yet whilst he says "No, that's effective i'm going to get it." Or something, purely settle for it as a choose! under no circumstances anticipate it, even with the undeniable fact that.
2016-09-30 00:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 'rule', the practice, will change, when women start asking men for the date! Women, as of now, need to save money more than men, because what follows after sex and intimacy, leaves a 'burden' with women, not men, who are free thereafter, thanks to nature's laws! Perhaps, that gives some logical reason why men should pay, to begin with!
2007-11-22 16:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, whenever I specifically suggest eating out somwhere with a friend or a date, I make it a point to pay, especially if I had a rather pricy place in mind or wanted to talk them into trying some cooking out of their comfort zones.
2007-11-22 17:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it's silly and an old stereo type in my opinion. Likely stems from back in the day when women who had honor did not work for money but did house work around the house till a contract was brought up by the father for marriage.
2007-11-22 16:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I like it when a guy invites me out and pays, it shows that he wants to make me feel special. It's the thought behind the money.
2007-11-22 16:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by it's me 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because they know it will be mostly men asking the women out on a date. If it were man that held sexual power and it were women who drawn to men, they would say the opposite.
2007-11-22 21:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋