My husband wants sex all the time, we have been married for 5 years and together for 8. We have two loving kids together. I love him with all my heart, but sex is just not on my mind 24/7. Im always busy with work or cleaning the house or taking care of the kids. We share a lot of time together and that time never seems like enough. He comes in from work and expects me to have sex with him right then and there, no matter where we are or whos at the house with us. He dont care. When he wants it, its suppose to be done right then. What do I do, please help. Thank you so much.
2007-11-22 15:50:55 · 17 answers · asked by Carebear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel, I have three kids and a very horney husband and it is hard to always have sex on your mind when you have to deal with kids and cleaning. What they are not understanding is they come home from work and are able to relax and unwind, while being a mom our job is 24/7. I told my husband that when he wants to run off into a bedroom when the kids are around it makes me feel very bad about myself, like he doesnt care about my feelings or if i have had time to unwind and i feel that he isnt looking at me with , I love you so much and need you right now in his eyes, he is looking at me like I am a whore and could care less about whats going on around him, like kids, company, dinner burning ect. ect. and is only worried about how he is feeling. For a while I felt bad because I always said no, or wait until tonight, because ya, its nice to feel like, wow he really needs me and wants me so much, but then I had to stop feeling bad because feeling bad and giving in only made it worse for myself, so I suggest that you talk to him about it. I talked to my husband and we are working on it and things have gotten better. I told my husband that I loved him more then life itself but he was makeing sex feel like an obligation, and I loved how he made me feel so desireable but at the same time he was making me associate sex with stress and I did not want to feel that way anymore. I told him it was hard to be in the mood for sex when the phone is ringing , I am in the middle of doing dishes with one kid hanging on me, one needing help with homework and one yelling from tha bathroom for toilet paper, not to mention talking to his mother who poped in for a quick visit to say hello, ya color me horny because he just got home from work and wants to run off and do it, after fighting for about an hour we both decided to work on it so just try and tell him how you feel!! good luck!!!
2007-11-22 16:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dawn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you do:
This may sound hard to do but do it. You have sex with him. But not when he wants it but later that night. Then you have sex with him multiple times throughout the night. You have sex with him so many times that his penis begins to get so red and sore that he feels like his penis is hamburg.
It works and he won't be asking you for sex soon after that. Just use lots of KY Jelly for you so you don't get as raw as he will. Even after he is spent you climb back on and do it again and again until he can't take it no more. You'll see his "impromtu" desire will eventually wain.
2007-11-22 16:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they just don't think. Yes, I would have been upset but look at it this way, your baby is your daughter and you can make a tradition no matter how old the age is and as she grows older then she can start doing it for you. If he doesn't want to get it for you then take yourself and the baby and buy yourself something for mother's day. It will get even more special as they get older. I have a 17 and a 12 year old.
2016-05-25 01:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by ashlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the rest. Most women after 5 yrs of marriage can't get thier husbands horny enough for them. There's several solutions. Plan days that you're going to give in. When your done, hand him the list of chores he's going to do since he took your time away from them, or just do them together afterwards. Trust me, in 10 yrs you may wish for these days back.
2007-11-22 16:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats awsome. It could be a lot worse, at least you are in a loving and sexually active marriage. Some people are so miserable in their marriages. Anyway, tell him you'll only have sex with him at nighttime or when no one is visiting. Tell him he has to do some of the chores your doing so you can finish faster and that way you guys can have sex! And you won't have so much to do!
2007-11-22 16:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by sun day 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a nympho and needs to put in check his sexual desires. He can always take care of himself and should not expect you to please his every need. I say this because I was in the same situation you were, thought it was okay, everyone believes it's a good thing, although everything, including sex, needs balance. Especially when you are feeling conflict. You need to say no and stick with it, otherwise the psychological effects will show up later, your disinterest.
2007-11-22 16:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either we are insensitive bastards keeping a woman on the side if we dont want it, or we are insensitive bastards for wanting it all the time. You should be glad that after 8 years he is still interested in you physically. But no, you want to come on here an complain....
2007-11-22 16:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no Doctor, but I've been told that back in WWII, the Armed Services used salt peter to control the servicemen's desires. I haven't heard if it actually worked, or if it had any negative effects on their health.
2007-11-22 16:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sedatives
2007-11-22 16:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just buy him some porn so that whenever you are tired he can take care of himself that way your needs are meet and so will his...its the only logical compromise.
2007-11-22 16:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋