My boyfriend of 7 years has lost all intrest in SEX. It did not start out this way. We just had our first child 10 months ago, so this has been going on for almost a year. He says he is tired all the time, but I truly think there has to be something medicaly wrong. Or is this more common then I thought?
I have tried the obvious stuff, and still nothing, He even refuses to do things that were once fun. I truly don't understand. But I am to YOUNG to be going through this, so any ideas, maybe emotionaly or please tell me I am not the only one..................
2007-11-22 15:43:45 · 17 answers · asked by Cali Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
either he is sick or I was when I was 26.
when I was 26 I wanted it 2 or more times a day. Let's just say that my wife didn't have the drive I had. She was like your hubby.
2007-11-23 03:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by old-softy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly are NOT the only one.
You should make a list of the possibilities of what it could be.
Then check-up on each one.
For example - could something physically be wrong with him? Lure him in for a "check-up" .. just to first make sure his healthy. If he is tired all of the time .. it could be medical. I know of a couple things that would make him tired. Does he have diabetes? .. this can cause problems. It would do him good to see a doctor .. just to be sure.
Could it be drugs? Would you .. do you .. know the signs? Sometimes people get big surprises here.
I have heard of this happening to some husbands, after the birth of a baby. I don't know WHY .. but it happens.
It would be wise to start with the medical check-up .. and have the doctor check EVERYTHING.
See what answers you get from the check-up .. if everything is ok .. then go to the next thing to check out.
You will have to seek answers.
2007-11-23 00:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There has been studies that show once a man sees or understands the "other" function of female parts (besides sex), they lose interest in sex, they cannot look at you the same way once you have a child. He needs to talk about it, may need counseling and not pressured into sex or feeling inadequate. It takes time to digest. Hopefully he will get over it. So sorry to say, although some men have affairs at this time. Wish you luck!
2007-11-22 23:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not common at that age, but could be for a man of 60 or more.
He maybe experiencing:
a functional problem
health problem
extreme stress problem
depression?
porn addiction (prefers quick & easy than a real woman)
cheating?
I think the first step is the doctor's office as fatigue is a symptom of a lot of conditions.
Joy to you...
2007-11-23 00:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband (28) and I (26) only have sex about 1x sometimes 2x a week. But thats normal for us, we like it but it's just not a huge part of our relationship and were fine with that. He could also be cheating on you or maybe he doesn't like the way you look, but it could just be that he's comfortable and slumped into a routine. Try doing spontaneous, sexy things like lingerie. If that doesn't work, talk to him and ask him why. If you can't have good communication about your feelings, you should think twice before you marry him.
2007-11-22 23:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he say about this situation? It is time for a good talk, let him know that you are worried, and would like him to open up to you.
Is he depressed? Or on medication for it? This can affect the libido greatly.
Perhaps he has some worries that you are not aware of.
Perhaps, he is just not interested in doing anything with you.
If he has a problem(and it has nothing to do with you) then I would suggest that he seek a physician's advice on what he should do.
2007-11-22 23:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my first husband started doing heavy drugs (totally without my knowledge) he lost his sex drive entirely. I was only 18 years old, and it drove me crazy! That is, until I realize what was going on with him. That was many years ago, and I have found out since that he has also been with men. Depression will also deplete the sex drive. How long has it been since he has seen a doctor?
2007-11-22 23:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by geminiwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is depressed. My ex stopped wanting sex when we were married. He was unhappy with the marriage because he wasn't a good provider and I was miserable. Of course he refused to get help and admit anything was wrong, so I left him. He better speak up and try and fix things or he'll find he's all by himself when you get sick of putting up with his issues.
2007-11-23 00:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Neophyte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex to a guy is like candy to a child. Something is terribly wrong. Talk to him and get it fixed. Also, he was man enough to get you pregnant, it's time for him to pony up and get you a ring, or kick him to the streets.
2007-11-22 23:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not common at all!!!!!!!! he should be wanting to have sex with you all the time...Im 36 and the drive is strong...
2007-11-22 23:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋