we've been together for so long, but he is still married only because he does not want to walk out on his child, his wife gives him so much stress and has to leave... he knows exactly how i feel, but the age between us is a big problem. should i let him go? or tell him that where he goes, i go?!?!?!? he was my first love, my true love, and its really killing me to know i will never see him again.... WHAT DO I DO??
2007-11-22 15:41:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the only place you need to go is to therapy.
2007-11-22 15:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by the evil1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were to put myself in your shoes....
I would respect his decision of still being in the marriage and I'd leave him alone.
I would just walk away with no explanation. I believe there's no explanation needed. Age is never a problem in a realtionship.
But since he is still married, I won't destroy his marriage.
Maybe in the first place there's nothing serious between the 2 of you. Maybe he's tired of fooling around and decides to go back to his wife.
2007-11-22 23:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nicey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still married because he's been lying to you about his wife, she's probably a sweetheart who had the misfortune to marry a liar and a cheat. You have just been used with the oldest excuse in the book.
Kick yourself for being so immature and so naive that you fell for this baloney and don't get involved with another woman's husband again. Have some self respect.
2007-11-23 00:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was with you more than a month and made no attempt to end his marriage - whatever the EXCUSE - then he won't do so now. He has what he wants, a home with his family and you on the side, you are the one missing out.
Decide now if you are worth more than this. If you are not - follow. If you are - end this. He has no intention of leaving his wife for you.
2007-11-22 23:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this Low self-esteem night? Where's your pride girl? This man is a loser. You are younger than he and he takes advantage of this fact. You are being controlled. HE DOES'NT LOVE YOU!!! Ever heard of the song 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover? Do it, and Do it now! GeeeeeZ! Where are you people coming from?
2007-11-23 00:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by ms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your chance to just make a clean break. Do Not follow him and his family. This arrangement sounds less than healthy or ideal for you as it is. It can only get worse. Go online and google "letting go". I hope you discover more answers. Be strong and move on. Good luck.
2007-11-22 23:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by 4Seasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. You cannot find happiness in having to share him with someone else. What happens if you do leave with him and things go bad where he breaks it off with you? It's already a bad enough situation being with him, don't make it worse by moving too. Leave him and take the time to let yourself heal from it. In time, you will find another who can make you happier than you were with him. It can happen! : )
2007-11-22 23:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by randmthots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh for pete's sake... two of you in less than three posts apart .
He is NOT going to leave his wife... he's giving you the oldest excuse in the book...
Let him go... nothing... dump him! Why be with a liar and a cheat... really?! I want to know.
Dump him fast... don't be a home wrecker... go out and start looking for a man without attachments This is not love...
2007-11-22 23:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU REALLY KNOW THE ANSWERE TO THIS AND DONT WANT TO ADMIT IT. HE HAS A CHILD ,WHAT IF THIS WERE YOUR CHILD? TRUE LOVE WOULD BE A LOT EASIER THAN WORRING ABOUT IF HE WAS GOING TO LEAVE HIS WIFE AND CHILD. HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT HE WOULD RESPECT AND LOVE YOU IF HE CANT RESPECT HIS WIFE ENOUGH TO BE HONEST WITH HER? CHNCES ARE HE ISNT BEING HONEST WITH YOU EITHER,DO YOUR SELF A FAVOR AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU LOVE ,RESPECT ,AND HAPPINESS!!!
2007-11-23 02:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by anita b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get out and get help. Life is too short to be chasing another womans man. Believe me if he cheats on her, eventually he will cheat on you.
Run don't walk
2007-11-23 00:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by experienced in life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have the picture of what everyone else is telling you! you will find love again dont worry just move on without this guy
2007-11-23 00:09:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋