he has plans to get divorced but i don't know why he calls me when he gets a chance and has taken chances when he's at work the first thing he told me when we started talking was that he was married and planned on getting devorce as soon as h could without loosing everything
2007-11-22 15:37:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he tried to let me go but i need to be able to talk to him in person to know for sure what he is feeling and he told me he is leaving his wife before we ever started anything except being friend i am friends with his brother and i know half of his family (not personally) but i run into them all the time. i left my husband because i was very unhappy fr many years and i would not go back and try that again. i have dated other guys but i feel to strongly about one man to go out anymore the feelings get stronger every day and i haven't even seen him in a month all we do is talk.
2007-11-25 02:13:32 · update #1
Be careful and move slowly....Could be faking "predator' or might be real and a little scared. Time and patience should answer these questions.
2007-11-22 15:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He's married, but he loves you, and he will get a divorce as soon as he can? And you believe him, right?
OK.
If he was unhappily married, and loved you and wanted to marry you instead, he would do so, and to heck with the financial cost.
Why should he get a divorce anyway? He has it all--no legal fees or child support or loss of his home or anything, and he has you as well. What's in it for him?
Even if he did divorce his wife because he loves you and wants to marry you, what stops you from thinking that he might one day do the same thing to you when someone younger or prettier or who understands him better, or whatever, comes along?
If you are single yourself, it is best to tell him to stay away from you until he has been divorced for a year.
If you are not single, you're no better than he is.
No good can come of this.
2007-11-22 23:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He has no plans on getting a divorce and being with you. It's a lie that guys like that tell the girl to give her false hopes to get what he wants from her. Get away from him and don't let him play you. He will just end up hurting you real bad. Either he thinks you're worth losing half of his material possession, or he doesn't. The possessions can eventually be replaced. Your heart can't. If he can't make the decision, then he doesn't love you as much as he claims he does.
2007-11-22 23:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by randmthots 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're smart enough not to fall for the old "I'm planning on leaving my wife" story. If you are, we'll be hearing from you in a few months when you ask, "Why is he still with his wife?" If he's that good of a guy, he'll get a divorce before he starts anything with you. If he doesn't wait, consider what it will be like to be with a man who has a history of cheating.
2007-11-22 23:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he's "planning" on getting a divorce soon, then wait until YOU are sure that the paperwork has been filed. You may be surprised how many "about to be divorced" men are still with their wives many years done the track, and unless you are happy with the thought of being nothing more than his mistress, and having society blame you (unfairly) as a home wrecker, I'd wait until he was free.
**The home wrecker is, in my opinion, the one who decides to cheat on their partner. No-one can make a committed partner cheat. It is something the cheater chooses for themselves.
2007-11-22 23:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is having his cake and eating it too. When he told you his situation, the reply should have been, okay,call me back when you are divorced then. Now you are in a situation that the only one having fun is him. Do you really want to wait for a man like this whether he loves you or not? Sorry to drag on.........know that most men have affairs for SEX, not love. Women on the other hand, usually always FALL IN LOVE.
2007-11-23 00:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, is there a "special" on divorce rates for December or January VS November? What's with the timing? Sounds like he's more concerned about what he's going to lose than about having YOU. Ummm---what's that tell you?
2007-11-23 00:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it really love?... love is not selfish... love dnsnt mean that he's gonna choose you over his present wife.... do u think that he's not gonna do the same to you if he meet someone who is younger, or sweet, or rich?... he's not a real man... a real man stands for his dcsion... if he dsnt love his present wife anymore, fine!... divorce might be the solution.... but why?... because of you?.. u dnt wanna ruin his family, do u?.. that is wrong... in the eyes of men and esp in the eyes of God... and he said that he has a plan on getting dvorce as soon as he could, without loosing everything?... what kind of man is that?... what if he do the same thing with u?... bsides, he's married for 16 years!... that's really smething!... think about it!...
2007-11-22 23:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by nicole1606 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should wonder, if it was your husband that was cheating on you, how would you feel. Apparently you have never had your heart ripped out by a cheating husband. If he is married you should never have had a relationship with him anyway. If he did leave his wife for you do you honestly think you could trust him to be faithful to you?
2007-11-23 00:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell him that you found a boyfriend but you will still see him on the side too. Also tell him that once he leaves his wife you will break things off with your ''boyfriend". That or leave his ***, a guy will say anything to get into your pants.
2007-11-23 07:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by serg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he had any desire to be divorced he would have been divorced before he became involved with you. He keeps telling you he is going to get a divorce so that he can continue using your for a whore. You are allowing him to use you as just that.
2007-11-23 01:49:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋