I dated a guy about 10 years ago; we broke up on good terms and remained friends. Due to an out of state job transfer we lost contact. When I was visiting a friends myspace page; I saw he was a visitor. When I asked my friend about him, she forgot we dated. I have since learned that he is divorced. I would like to email him and catch up. Do you think my friendly email could be construed as something more serious? I am happily married!
2007-11-22 15:33:02 · 11 answers · asked by Rebecca K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only if you make it that way- be honest wand open with your husband about what your doing, mark your profile clearly as looking for ONLY friends, and make it clear top this one where your loyalty is. You may want to even give him some distance (as much as you can online) till he's a good year or so out of the divorce.
2007-11-22 15:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might only see it as a friendly email but he may see it as more so better to let a memory stay in the past. He may have changed so it is better to keep the good memories rather than find out he has turned into a jerk or worse, someone who might come around to try to cause problems between you and your husband.
2007-11-22 15:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are currently married, I suggest that you leave the past alone. Diverting the energy from your marriage to "catch up" is negative energy to your husband, and is morally cheating on him.
2007-11-22 16:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't email him. He might be emotionally needy if he is now divorced, you might be any-port-in-a-storm, or any one of a number of possibilities. I think it could be hurtful to your husband as well. Resist the urge. No good can come of it.
2007-11-22 15:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it... don't go there... These things always cause a problem or trouble or bad fantasies that usually do not work out.
If you are as happily married as you claim to be, there is no need to stir old waters by contacting exes... it's just bad policy.
Leave it be....seriously.
2007-11-22 15:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with a friendly hello email..as long as it stays at that.
Would you be ok telling your husband about it? If not, then don't do it.
Would you be ok with him doing the same thing?
2007-11-22 15:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing how simple the average male mind is, yes, he could possibly read more into your e-mail than you intended. Go for it if you like, just keep the boudries clear.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 15:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him be. You are married. You only risk making your husband jealous and causing problems at home.
If you love your husband, don't do it.
2007-11-22 15:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it could and it wouldn't do your marriage much good
2007-11-22 19:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by MWestbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband will be pissed, stop rationalizing, he will be pissed
2007-11-22 15:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋