My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months. About a month ago I realised that I am not in love with her, and I was planning on breaking up with her and, before I could break up with her she told me that she is pregnant.
She is now putting pressure on me to get married, but I know in my heart that I don't love her the same as she loves me and if I do marry her it will only be because she is having our child.
Our relationship is not getting any better because she can see that I am not happy and in turn it is making her unhappy and depressed, which is not good for the baby.
I think that the best thing to do is talk to her as soon as possible and tell her that I don't want to continue our romantic relationship, but I will still support her pregnancy and our child 100% emotionaly and financialy.
Is ending our romantic relationship while she is pregnant the morally wrong thing to do?
I would resent the situation if I only stayed romantically involved because of the child.
2007-11-22 15:30:02 · 14 answers · asked by safhueytioy67388 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My dad later told me that he stayed with my mom for me and he was never happy in their marrige, and I swore to myself that I would not allow myself to get in that situation myself.
2007-11-22 15:49:04 · update #1
I do plan on being there for the child as much as I can be.
2007-11-22 15:51:26 · update #2
We were using protection, an IUD, but she said that her body rejected the IUD and it came out during her first period with the IUD, but she didn't notice it came out until few days later when she checked to see if it was still there, but by this time she was already pregnant!
2007-11-23 02:32:52 · update #3
We were using protection, an IUD, but she said that her body rejected the IUD and it came out during her first period with the IUD, but she didn't notice it came out until few days later when she checked to see if it was still there, but by this time she was already pregnant!
2007-11-23 02:33:00 · update #4
staying in a relationship because of of a child is not only hurtful to the parents but also the kid(s) a child is more affected in a bad relationship than the parents are, you should not continue this relationship if you are not in love with the other,especially if a child is involved, and the sooner you two come to those terms the better off the child will be. you should tell your preg. girl friend what you have told us, what i read in your question was perfect, and yes if she loves you she will be heart broken but over time she will realize it was for the best. just reassure her that you are going to help support her in this pregnancy and continue to help financially. and please be a good father for your kid no matter how bad the mom might get on your nerves.
2007-11-22 15:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by aeytei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leaving Your Pregnant Girlfriend
2017-01-09 15:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by sussman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , if u have such questions why not ask her directly. Second, leaving her would only cause the child to be illegitimate and it will have a very bad effect to the baby when she is growing up in such environment of having separated parents.Third, if u love her why are you doubting?If u do love her and she do love you, for me there is no certain thing to make you not marry her and besides if u don't love each other your baby will not be in his womb in the first place. Though you have some difficulties and disabled is some way, you still have other skills and talents, Most disabled people try to do things the best they can, though they have discrepancies to do other work at least they are trying to do the things that they are good in . So have faith in yourself. Don't let the child suffer.
2016-03-17 03:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you did stay initially, It might end with a bigger bang later. And unfortunately when the s++t hits the fan, you will have a little child involved who will then have to deal with you up and leaving. Then again, the baby you two have together might bring you closer in time.
But do not marry this girl just because she is pregnant. Live in separate places. share the parenting and see how the relationship between the two of you evolves from there.
2007-11-22 15:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a lot of the other posts.
Don't just stay with her for the sake of the baby, it won't help the situation. If everyone is miserable the baby is going to be miserable. Just make sure you do help financially and emotionally with the baby that is the only person you have a tie to.
Definitely do it sooner than later if you are going to break up with her, but still have a good friendship with her so you are able to have visitation and all that good stuff that comes with being a daddy.
2007-11-22 17:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not stay with her just because of your child. My mother and father stayed together for that exact reason, me...however, they did not love each other, they ALWAYS faught, you want to talk about morally wrong? That is morally wrong. You should not stay with somebody unless you love them. Not because of your child. Although I, because of my religion, believe that you should be in love before having a child, I also believe that you should not be with somebody just because you got her pregnant, if anything, like my parents you two can be friends, and be neutural for the baby...stay involved with your baby though, that is the best thing to do...youre doing the right thing. Dont put your child through what i went through, all because my parents stayed together because they were having a child, not because they loved eachother. If you two do not love eachother, I do not think that it will be good for the baby.
2007-11-22 15:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Des 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not in love with her, you better leave her, if you don't, it will just lead to heartache on both ends further down the road and neither of you will end up happy.
Just always be there for your child, that is what is important!
I had two friends that had a baby at 17 and 18 years old and got married right away... it ended a year later... think it over!!!
2007-11-22 15:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
ONE Word for you....TRUTH thats the best way.
Dont stay with her just to make her happy because she wont be in the long run....be sure to tell her you will still support her 100% etc
In the long run if you stay together it will be a lie and i dont think a child would like to be brought up with two parents that dont love each other...This is going to be a hard time for both of you but keep your chin up and remain positive you telling the truth is the most grown up way to go about it....Dont let people pressure you because they feel you should be man enough to stay with her its your choice no one elses
2007-11-22 15:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For once just put yourself in her shoes. Think about what you would do. People are saying oh just leave her but if it was happening to them the answer wouldn't be the same. You should do what your heart tells you but put some thought into it before you make this decision. I hope it works out either way.
2007-11-22 17:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by LIL REDD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you actually made a mess of the relation yourself. If you already found that you don't love your gf that much, why didn't you have protection while having sex. I don't ever agreed that couples stayed together just bcoz of the kids. It affect the upbringing of the kids coz they will only see their paretns fighting each other more than loving moments. So please think carefully what is the best solution out
2007-11-22 17:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋