My boyfriend and i are in high school and have been in love with eachother for over 3 years. This past summer we broke up because he got scared that we were to close for our age. We both tried to move on by dating other people but we ended back together. We are now taking a "break" so that we can live the rest of our senior year as it should be. To make a long story short, we are both madly in love with eachother and cant imagine our lives without the other one. We both have expericed different relationships as well with other people. We both know that we are going to end up together in the long run. I have this feeling that he is going to ask me to marry him after we graduate but we will only be 18 when this happenes. So my question is if we both love eachother, we both have tried to move on but can't, will it be too soon if we get married at age 19, 20, or 21?
2007-11-22 15:21:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you two are so much in-love with each other.. don't rush... you will end up together. for the meantime get education... good job.... save and then plan on marriage... keep dating but go to school okey? i am so happy to hear two people so much in-love.... good luck
2007-11-22 15:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by margarita lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't rush to get married, or live together either for that matter, but just be close friends until then. you may find after you graduate that your paths separate but if not, the longer you wait, the stronger you each become and the stronger the eventual marriage can be. It sounds like you have a great relationship together If you get married now and one of you, or you both, decide to go to college that can put a strain on a relationship so better to wait until you finish school, decide where you are going in life, get some pre-marital counseling, and all of these will increase the chances of a long and happy marriage. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-23 00:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I wanted in a guy when I was in high school was NOTHING like what I wanted when I was 25, and that was NOTHING like what I wanted when I was 35.
People change as they grow up. You aren't the woman you will be for the rest of your life. You're not done growing up yet.
You may end up with your boyfriend when you're 19, but I doubt if you'll still be with him when you're 29. Or 39.
Here's my advice to anyone looking to get married. What are 5 things about your significant other that you absolutely can't stand?? If you don't have 5 things about that person that you don't like, then you don't know him/her well enough to consider getting married. I GUARANTEE you that there will be things you discover about each other after you're married that will DRIVE YOU MAD!! And, if you do have 5 things that you can't stand, can you live with those? Odds are the person won't change just because you're married.
2007-11-23 00:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by hrcarr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my now husband when we were both sixteen. We got married on our five year anniversary (when we were both 21). I guess it really depends on the relationship and the people involved. We had been living together on our own for 4 years before we got married, so when we got married it was no different to how we were already living; it was just a matter of legal documents, our lives were already being lived as if we were married.
What I suggest you do is live with him on your own for at least a year. If all goes well, then make the decision. Life as a couple is very different when you live together and are around each other 24/7 as opposed to just seeing each other whenever.
2007-11-22 23:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married to my high school sweetie when I was 18 he was 19. We divorced 10 years later. I think that you should wait awhile before you jump in with both feet. We had 2 beautiful girls and they were the ones who were hurt the most. Have a long engagement to be than it will be. But you are the one who will have to make the final chose. You know how you feel and he feels and based on that you and he can make the choice together.
2007-11-22 23:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are success and failed stories marrying so young. It is up to the both of you as to how you feel. I would recommend premarriage counseling so you both can prepare for what is ahead if you decide to marry. Being so young you will either grow together or grow apart, it takes two. Be each other's best friends whatever you decide to do and you can't go wrong. Good luck!
2007-11-22 23:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep... too young., The average age now of people getting married - girls 31 and guys 34... so... yeah... you two... waaaay too young! Get our education - a good one... go off and have some fun and get a great career... then settle in.., Too many marriages end in divorce because people just aren't prepared... Love is love... love is work and marriage is real hard work. Have fun before settling in. It's really not the stars...
You may be destined for each other... but get life in order... that would be education, job and freedom for awhile before settling into life
good luck
2007-11-22 23:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because when you are 19 you think differenly than you do at 20 or 21 or any other age. point is marriage is for grown ups. the best age is late 20's when you are a lot more mature. if you two are so in love then you can wait
2007-11-22 23:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋