Ok, I'm trying not to sound too frantic, but several months ago my gay friend and I (I'm female he's male, we're both 26) had sex. We were really drunk (please don't judge) and we went a little bit too far. We didn't use a condom and yesterday I discovered that I am pregnant. I want to keep the baby and I want for us to raise it together. I just don't know how to break the news to him. I don't have a boyfriend and neither does he, but I am still worried at what his reaction will be. He has always said that he wants to be a father someday, but I'm not sure if this is really when he was hoping. I also really want him to be there for the birth, because I'm really scared. This is very difficult for me because I want our relationship to stay platonic, but at the same time I lost my virginity to him.
Please, I just need some suggestions on how to tell him.
2007-11-22 15:15:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am extremely pro-choice, but I personally could never abort a baby.
2007-11-22 15:22:20 · update #1
I'm not showing, but I've missed several periods and I took an office pregnancy test that came up positive.
2007-11-22 15:28:06 · update #2
i think you should tell him, tell him that yes it was an accident, but you want to keep it and you want him to be there...
maybe he doesn't have to exactly be the father figure, maybe he could be like the cool uncle or something, you know how those things work?
tell him, you don't want anything from him, relationship wise...
thats really all i can say, but good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-22 15:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
while it was a one night stand at least it wasn't a random guy one night stand!
You need to be upfront with him, let him know. However since it's been several months and you're only telling him now he'll probably want DNA tests done and don't be shocked, if I was a guy and some girl several months later sprang that on me I'd be like whoa back off!
Make sure he knows you're just finding out or else he could be angry you didn't tell him sooner.
Just invite him to coffee and bring up that night and slowly but straight up say you're pregnant....
I'm just curious....several months ago....did you wake up today with a baby bump and go "I must be pregnant"? You're what 5 months? I just don't see how a woman can miss a few periods and think nothing of it...my period is 5 hours later and I'm taking a test. I'm not judging, just curious!!
take parenting classes, involve him in those, keep him as involved in the pregnancy as he can be! You need him and the baby does too :)
2007-11-22 15:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Music 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your infants for your self... sooner or later you will discover the applicable guy and want a relatives of your person. additionally, doing this might taint your dating including your destiny husband, as you're willfully becoming extra bags. Immoral or no longer isn't the subject - the subject right here is clever and functional. do no longer smash your destiny. Being a surrogate mom is an honorable element to do in my view, yet basically specially circumstances, and basically while all events in contact are quite mature and residing stable lives in solid relationships. No offense, yet at 18 you nonetheless have some years of issues to check. in case you rather wanna be a surrogate, i might advise waiting till you're 35.
2016-10-17 21:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think he will be supportive, just make him aware that you understand he is gay and you are not asking for a relationship from him obviousley.
Gay guys are cool like that they understand women, trust me i nearly had the same experience with one of my gay friends, we got drunk too but luckily it didnt go any further than kissing but nearly!!
If he wants to be a father at some point i dont think he will ignore the responsibilities just sit him down and be honest with him im sure he will understand as he helped to contribute to you falling pregnant. Be strong girl it will be fine you just have to blurt it out!!
2007-11-22 15:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How gay is he if he's having sex with girls???
I think you just have to sit him down and tell him. Make sure you're prepared to answer questions he might have for you. If you know you want to keep the baby, make that clear.
Good luck!
2007-11-22 15:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! Don't hide it! My son's father was *supposedly* gay, and I got pregnant, so I know the feeling, only problem in my situation was he wanted to take total control of the parenting, so I kicked him out. If you have feelings for him and he for you, and you believe that you are making the right choice, then telling him will make you feel better. Don't listen to the people on here who tell you to abort, they are ignorant.
2007-11-22 15:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GooD FOR YOU!!!!! well the only thing is i want to say i am so so so happy that you are keeping it! i also am extremely pro life!:) AND ABOUT TELLING HIM..... you know him best but i would tell him your feelings about it as soon as possibly just so he knows... and if you are as close as it sounds then he will still love you (like friends of course) and the baby will be happy with its(him or her) mommy and daddy (or mommy if he is feminine- i know a few) .. just be honest and tell him asap!!! Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
2007-11-22 15:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(not that I know him .. but) I see him being extreamly excited!! Go for it, tell him!!
2007-11-22 15:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a choice...it's not right or wrong...
think about it..would you want to keep his baby? carry his baby? will he have responsibilities for your baby?
2007-11-22 15:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋