For Divorced People: How many people actually follow the original marriage vowels? Why is it so difficult?

Question

"To have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better or worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death do us part.

Answer 1

Actually...at my wedding we recited these "vows", and the truth is "the for better or worse" line was the line that didn't stick, for various reasons on both our parts mostly do to the fact that there was an "opt out" called divorce.

I know you're not poking fun at divorcees, just probably wondering where the hell do we get off raising our children to follow basic instructions and we can ourselves.

Answer 2

It is so difficult because problems arise in marriage .. fighting happens .. marriages get stale, passion & love gets stale .. people take each other for granted .. people do things to take away from their marriaged .. and people "do" things to each other which pushes each other away ... and when they happens, it leaves a person empty & seeking something ... and they think they can't find it at home. However, some people just plain cheat .. for no reason. There are a whole host of reasons WHY it is so difficult.

All in all .. MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK.

For the married ones who try to make it work .. they get so overwhelmed so much .. and unhappiness sets in .. that they hunt happiness in other places. People become disallusioned. People change. People fall out of love. Some people give surprise personality traits .. such as hidden abuse ,, alcoholism , and more. So many emotions come from so many different directions, that it is difficult to balance them all. Some people just give up .. in hopes of finding the solution .. and something better.

If marriage was easy ... then there would not be many divorces. And more marriage would be everlasting forever .. as most originally want it to be anyway.

Answer 3

I'm sure plenty have hammered you on the vows/vowel thing so I won't. The vows mean nothing to people who have no morals. It's that simple. Unfortunately, they are just words these days, part of ceremony but no one stops and makes you think about what you are saying or committing to. Even the church has fallen down on the job. Think about it, if a minister marries you knowing death is not the reason you are no longer with your first, they are condoning the lie as well as you being blasphemous to the vow. Also ask yourself this, if the person didn't commit to the vow the first time, what makes you think they will the second or third etc. etc.

It echos the downfall of our society and the degradation of our morality. Same as gay marriage and out of wedlock pregnancy. We are hopelessly on a road to ruin and damnation.

Answer 4

I guess you mean when we were married?! I think it is only difficult if you stop loving each other or never did in the first place. And it seems these days so many people don't actually take marriage all that seriously. It used to be a big deal to get a divorce. Now its more like trading in a used car for a new one.

Answer 5

because people have expectations and when they aren't met, or circumstances aren't right, people tend to go out and find someone new before even trying. people go into the marriage thinking there won't be any hard times, and when there is they just have no idea how to deal with it plus they don't want to put in the work necessary to make it work. its hard to follow the vowels because people are selfish and have the wrong perceptions about the true meaning of marriage. also some don't have a real strong belief in god.

Answer 6

everybody that gets married Agrees with those vows & that is the way it's supposed to be, but quite frankly the way the world is today with so much promiscuity it is kind of hard for both parties to keep theyr pants on or not to open theyr legs.I don't the man or the woman needs to be blamed, people in general want more. Here is a song by FAITH NO MORE

Can you feel it ,see it, hear it today?
If you can't, then it doesn't matter anyway
You will never understand it cuz it happens too fast
And it feels so good, it's like walking on glass
It's so cool, it's so hip, it's alright
It's so groovy, it's outta sight
You can touch it, smell it, taste it so sweet
But it makes no difference cuz it knocks you off your feet
You want it all but you can't have it
It's cryin', bleedin', lying on the floor
So you lay down on it and you do it some more
You've got to share it, so you dare it
Then you bare it and you tear it
You want it all but you can't have it
It's in your face but you can't grab it
It's alive, afraid, a lie, a sin
It's magit, it's tragic, it's a loss, it's a win
It's dark, it's moist, it's a bitter pain
It's sad it happened and it's a shame
You want it all but you can't have it
It's in your face but you can't grab it
What is it?
It's it
What is it?...

Answer 7

I am divorced, and it pisses me off when people say that I made a mockery of marriage. I was young adn thought I was in love... a real mockery would have been to stay with someone I didn't love when marriagfe is for two people that love eachother. People make mistakes things happen and people don't mean to break marriage vowes but it happens, no one is perfect, you just try your best and sometimes you fail. I failed, we failed but we really tried and that is what matters. I was the best wife i could be to him but to be fair I had to let him go because I wasn't happy and I knew eventually he wouldn't be either. we are still friends and now we are both as happy as we ever could be, and for that I am glad.

Answer 8

I think it's difficult for people who marry before they know who they are and who they are marrying. Marriage isn't taken as seriously as it once was and the statistics prove that.
I'll admit I didn't understand the commitment at age 19, but my 2nd marriage happened at age 42 and we both knew what we were committing to. The great thing is, it's NOT that difficult when you love and respect each other.

Answer 9

People are living longer than they use to.

Have you ever been married? Your relationship does change once you say "I do". It maybe marriage however it can also feel like prison. I have been divorced 16 years now. I like single much better. If the relationship ends, you don't lose half of what you earned and half your material possessions.

Answer 10

WELL I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 28 YRS AND WE HAVE FOLLOWED THESE VOWS TO THE TEE! LET ME BE THE FIRST TO TELL YOU IT IS NOT EASY! IT IS A JOB TO KEEP A MARRIAGE TOGETHER AND WORKING! BUT I TOOK THE VOWS AND I DO INTENT TO KEEP THEM! A MARRIAGE IS NOT TO BE ENTERED INTO LIGHTLY! THAT IS WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE YOUNG PEOPLE TODAY! IF IT TAKES WORK THEN GET RID OF IT! PEOPLE TODAY LIVE IN THE THROW AWAY WORLD. EASIER TO GET A NEW ONE, THEN TO WORK ON OR TRY TO KEEP IT GOING! MAYBE OLD PEOPLE KNOW MORE THEN WE GIVE THEM CREDIT FOR! TRY THEIR WAYS!