I have been married to my husband for about 2 years. We have had a good relatioship all the way up till we said our I do's. He works 2nd shift and by the time he gets home I'm ready for bed so we dont have much alone time. When it comes time to go to bed and be intimate I cant because he grosses me out. He will literally go 5 days without taking a shower. I tell him that is my problem and how he smells and stuff. I still cant get him to shower daily. Besides all that our relationship is great. I dont know how to make him realize that his hygene is effecting our relationship?
2007-11-22 14:32:46 · 16 answers · asked by ham 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
need to tell him if you haven't already and if that don't work don't let him touch you. my ex was the same way and that helped
2007-11-22 14:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by flavours_of_entanglement 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about having a shower with him..would that help? That way, you both get clean, and then the fun can begin!
Sorry, but that is gross. Has he always been lacking in the clean department?
If it is bothering you that much, you just have to keep telling him that every time he wants to get intimate.
Hopefully, he will start to realize this is not a good way to go.
2007-11-22 22:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him but not when he's about to go to bed. Do it over dinner or whatever so that he doesn't feel like you're putting him on the spot and give him your reasons and tell him that his lack of hygene is affecting your relationship and you think it's stupid that something as simple as being clean and taking a shower is causing that.
2007-11-22 22:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by chancro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From all the answers posted the two best pieces of advice are withhold sex and put him out of the bedroom or....take a shower with him! That would be my choice, and make sure tou have some if that Irish Spring soap..it really cuts body odor. I'm sorry you are faced with this. Is it possible that his nose is flawed and actually can't smell himself? Might be worth looking into.
2007-11-22 23:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Alyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him sleep in another room. That's just nasty.
I'm a cross country trucker, and I get a shower daily and I have to drive up to 20 hrs a day 4 weeks at a time before I get time off.
2007-11-22 22:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he think it's OK to go so long without a shower? And if it's an issue for you it should be addressed by him. If he can't do that, he's not respecting you and he has even bigger problems. He has to be willing to contribute to the relationship....and asking him to shower IS NOT asking too much!!
2007-11-22 23:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be open with him and let him know that your bed is his bed but only if he is clean. If he respects you he will take a hint, if he does not respect your request your marriage has more problems than what can be discussed here. Good luck.
2007-11-23 00:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by lazydaysranch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so gross. tell him he is not allowed to even get into bed with you unless he takes a shower. make him sleep on the couch. and withhold all sex and when he asks why tell him it is because he needs to get his dirty butt in the shower!!!!!
2007-11-22 22:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is keep telling him it is a problem for you... that it makes you uncomfortable. If he loves you he will get the hint and start taking better care of himself.
2007-11-22 22:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's bad, when a person goes all "Viking" on you. I'm not sure what to say. But to tell him to take a bath.
2007-11-22 22:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy. You told him that he smells bad and he still doesn't get it? Hang those little tree air fresheners in your room everywhere. Maybe then he'll get it.
2007-11-22 22:37:51 · answer #11 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋