What the hell!!?

Question

i've been with my partner for 6 years now, and kind of thought that we would at least be engaged by now. we love each other but i need to know .....

Answer 1

Has it ever come up in conversation? How has your relationship been? Maybe he is just not ready yet, or doesn't know how to do it..or perhaps the idea of marriage scares him. Maybe he doesn't think marriage will change anything.
Talk to him about the subject in general and see where he stands.

You say that you love each other but you need to know? Do you mean you want him to "prove" it to you?

Why don't you propose to him? It is uncommon but not unheard of.

Answer 2

He's not moving towards it because you aren't. Why should he, he has his cake and the icing too, so he's happy enough obviously.
You can't assume anything in this world, so it would be best to find out what he really wants.
6 years is a long time to be in a relationship without any thoughts at all about the future, especially if marriage is what you want.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Well that depends on what "been with my partner" means!!!! If you are living together and already giving all the "goods" of marriage...then they are thinking what is the need of the actual legal commitment??? You would need to back off....Give he/she a ultimatum....a ring and a date...or your gone!!! You have to stand by what you mean though. They won't take you seriously if you keep running back to them. If you aren't giving all the goods...then I wouldn't push it too much!!! I mean have you tlaked about it much at all? And if they know where you stand and what you want in the future then just leave it alone. I mean you don't want the pressure of it all to push em away!!! you want it to be a special moment!!! But be sure you both know what the future holds...If you see a future discuss it with your partner and see how they feel first!!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Look, I know that we shouldn't put a time limit on love but damn! All you really need to do is ask yourself if you are satisfied with just being his girlfriend. He obviously has commitment issues so if you are willing to stick around while he works them out then great. But if I were you, I would give him an ultimatum because if he wanted to get married he would just do it and get it over with. You need to talk to him, see where his head is and leave it if need be. The truth is that even after being together for six years doesn't mean that you are meant to be together. Good luck

Answer 5

Have you ever heard the expression " why buy the cow if the milk is free"? Sit down and have a long talk with your man, tell him you need to make things right in the eyes of the lord and the law, and if he wont marry you, you will have recourse but to walk away from the relationship, dont settle for anything less, and stick to your guns.

Answer 6

In six years, if you haven't gotten engaged, you are being used.
There is a saying that I love to use in these situations. In a guys mind, "why should I but the cow, when I can get the milk for free."
What that means, is that you already are giving him what he wants, without getting married, so why should he marry you.
It may be wrong to think that way, but trust me, it happens a lot more than people are willing to admit.
Tell him straight out, he has 2 choices either a ring, or the road. Don't give him any more time to treat you like this.
It really is a lack of respect, and that lack of respect comes from both of you not just him.

Answer 7

If you want to get engaged, ask him to marry you! Be a real woman and take some initiative. Only a sorry excuse for a human being would sit around waiting like you are right now.

Answer 8

Honey, get out now!!! He's comfortable and he expects for you to be. If you don't put your foot down you'll be miserable. Don't you know that if anything happened to him and he was in the hospital, his family can throw you out as if your six years with him didn't matter? Cover your behind and do it fast! I have five daughters that I would tell the same thing!

Answer 9

That's a long time to be together and not be married or engaged. You need to talk to him and find out his intentions.

Answer 10

ask him- you have invested enough in the relationship and deserve to know- I know it ruins the fairy tale but do you want a fairy tale or a marriage? some guys just need that push(sometimes off a cliff--just kidding) I don't know how old you are but if he does not want to get married and you do than you may need to find someone else and there is no time to waste (as we don't know how much time we've got)