I'm divorced and here's my experience and it has happened several times. When I tell a woman that I have a new house, she shows interest. When I tell her it's mortgaged to the hilt because my ex just had to have it and then filed for divorce 5 months later, that kinds of backs them off. When I tell her I live in the country, that's good but when I say I live on a working farm, that's not so good. When I tell her I have three kids (18,16,12), that's ok but when I tell them they live with me most of the year i never hear from her again. I've found that if the woman has kids, the new guy is supposed to love them like his own but when it comes to his kids, the custody agreement had better be the common2 weeks in summer and every other weekend. Why the double standard?
2007-11-22 14:05:19 · 7 answers · asked by bikinkawboy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For clairification, a working farm is one that actually makes money and not like many little play farms where it's just a hobby. As for the ex, married 19 years to a bi-polar who went on spending sprees countless times overdrawing bank accounts, in the psyc ward 6 times, overdosed on meds several times and finally decided she prefered cowboys. A classic case of amnesia, she forgot she was married to me at the time. Bitter? Not at all, we've stayed on good terms, I'm financially solvent now and can provide the kids with a stable environment.
2007-11-23 02:11:25 · update #1
Wow, I think you've gotton some really harsh opinions, many have truths in them but seriously, you really just need to keep looking. For every pot there is a lid. Being from the country myself, I know lots of wonderful women who love farms and don't mind helping, love kids and even teenagers , and enjoy cooking a large meal for the family. Some women actually prefer teenagers, I know I do. Don't be discouraged, as people say, when God closes a door, He usually opens a window...just keep looking.
2007-11-22 15:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Alyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The house is cool because that would follow with the idea you've got some money and some stability, some women like this.
The mortgage and the ex? That's a turn off because that shows a woman your financial stability isn't there and not only that, but your relationship stability isn't there either. A man with an ex wife isn't good pickings, not that women with ex husbands are good either.
The kids? Children suck and teenagers are worse, who wants to deal with that drama? Men shouldn't have to deal with children that are not their own either.
As for you being a farmer? There is no prestige in that!
I don't think it's a double standard guy. I think you're not dating the right women. You see, self respecting men or women wouldn't want someone in your situation. You need bottom of the barrel types in order to find someone who is willing to deal with ex wife, baby momma, teenager drama and a farmer who has no money.
2007-11-22 14:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think most of the things you mentioned are a double standard. if i told a guy i had a big house he might think its awesome. if i told him it was mortgaged up to the hills...not so awesome.
and i think you are meeting the wrong women. most women love kids and would have no problem with a man having primary custody of the kids.
now the work farm thing...that is a little weird. what do you mean by work farm? do you work on a farm or is it one of those communes? that might make some women a little weirded out.
2007-11-22 14:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the house issue brings to question your financial security, which women like.
Most women aren't too interested in living on a 'working' farm.
And most women aren't too interested in living with a man and his three practically grown children on a working farm.
But that's okay. There is someone out there for you.
As for the child custody thing, if you are dating women who think you should love their children as your own but they don't want to see yours, then DITCH them ASAP and keep looking. Not all of us feel that way.
2007-11-22 14:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is katrinas sister:
yes she did work her way from the bottom up and before YOU go telling her about her life and what SHE is why dont you try meeting her,, oh wait this is over the internet i forgot usually ppl dont judge over the internet unless they have no life you have no idea about the club or about her so keep your vulgar comments to yourself
talking to a young kids like that, telling a little girl she will grow up to give blow jobs how dare you she came to me in tears who do you think you are?
you should be ashamed of your self no wonder you cant get youself a descent girl your a horriable person to say those things
2007-11-24 06:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women know the system and take full advantage of it.
For example:
Everybody knows you're not supposed to sleep around when single....BUT women do it anyway and keep it a secret.
Next, women quickly kick a guy to a curb for him even entertaining thoughts about other women. Why? So they can quickly move to another lover while appearing proper.
The fact is, women will take advantage of whatever situation they are in, be it married or single...sleeping around or not....even in the workplace.
Why?
Because of that special thing in their dark place. Without that...what do women REALLY have to offer?
2007-11-22 14:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by male.confused 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
You haven't meet the right woman yet. When you do, none of that will matter to her.
2007-11-22 14:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋