Does this make me a weak person?

Question

I am 30 years old. I am pregnant. I have two children 12 and 8. I am recently divorced. Well, I do not think that I can afford this new addition.
So, I asked my parents if I could move back in with them.

I will have to sell my house and put my things in storage.

My two sons would share a bedroom and me & the baby would stay in the same room.

My expenses 'right now' is that i live paycheck to paycheck. i can afford what i have - but not much more.

does this make me a weak person?

Additional Note: i do get child support ($64 per week) from my ex-husband for our two sons.

I am pregnant by a man that I have been dating for the past 6 months. I was on the pill and very surprised when this happened.

so no - this baby is NOT my ex-husband's.

i work full time and make around 50K a year - so i won't qualify for any assistance. . .(and don't expect the gov't to pay for me either) but paying for daycare is gonna kill me. . .

Answer 1

no hon..it's called life with BUSH for president.

Answer 2

Absolutely not, alot of people go through a rough patch in there life, especially right after a divorce they are very expensive as you. So i say no, if you can survive paycheck to paycheck that makes you a strong person because not many people can, they often feel sorry for themselves and call on the government for help. I'm not saying that its wrong to do so. But when someone starts feeling sorry for themselves and expecting everyone pity that makes them weak. You on the other hand are a VERY strong and intelligent woman. Good luck, and hope your sons and the baby grows up to be healthy and successful.

Answer 3

At 30 yrs of age, deciding to move back in with your parents, and refusing to put your hand out asking for everyone else to pay for you, is a wise decision.
You should be proud that you are using your head and realize what you can and can't afford. I suggest that you remember that the pill isn't 100% and tell that to you children.
I hope that you are willing to swear off guys now, unless the father of your newest child is willing to marry you, and take on the role of a family man.
Good luck to you, and be proud of yourself for having the forsight to do the responsible thing here.

Answer 4

I guess weak has nothing to your situation.. but maybe you should pick a contraceptive method after your baby is born so that you can find a way to get back on track and not have to take such drastic decisons in the future. I personally don't think you're weak atall, you're just in a tight situation and trying to find the best solution.
Take care and I'm sure everything will turn out fine.

Answer 5

No, not at all. You just need some help. I know that moving back home with your parents was the last thing you really wanted to do, but sometimes we just have to do those things that we don't want to do. You are looking out for your children and right now, you need help with that. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, especially when asking the parents as we want to show them that we can make it on our own. So, no, you're not weak.

Answer 6

No, it doesn't make you a weak person, just someone having a hard time making it. If you are moving in with your parents just until you can get stand on your own two feet, then that shouldn't be a problem. Everybody needs help at some point in their life. I don't know who has told you, that you are weak, but if it wasn't your parents, then don't worry about it.

Answer 7

You are not a weak person...you are trying to do what is best...given the situation that you find yourself in...Is the father of the baby your ex husband's? If so...you need to take him to court and get child support...You have a plan for your family...but I would suggest that you start looking for a better paying job...

Answer 8

If you are talking of having an abortion no. If you are talking of having to move back in with your mom and dad no. If you are talking of living paycheck to paycheck no. You are not a weak person. You have to make choices in life that seem like you are weak but they are just a part of life. Making the decision makes you strong.

Answer 9

Weak, someone who has to care for two kids on her own, that is strong. At least you have parents who are willing to help you, that is great. Just keep God in prayers he will answer and get you through your tough situation. This will only make you stronger. You can also get aid for yourself to go to school and help raise your kid. I even know some schools that will give a mother with kids a full scholarship to go to school. A lady at my work was able to obtain one she has two kids about the same age yours. I am sure your parents will help, if they see you are willing to make you kids life better. Good luck to you and make sure you get child support.

Answer 10

You're only weak if you think you are. You have two children and are about to give birth to a third. From where I'm sitting, it looks like you're a pretty strong and brave person. My advice to you would be to start believing that you're as strong as you already are. From the moment of commitment, the universe works to assist you.

Answer 11

no, but i might suggest that you look into adoption because there are a lot of people who want children and can't have them (and are willing to do open adoption). being able to realize that you cant afford a child is very adult, and doing the right thing for it is even better.

if that isnt an option for you, you should make sure you pursue child support. dead beat dads are the worst scum of society.