Divorced dad needs advice regarding x-mas gifts?

Question

My 8 yr old son lives with me 40% of the time. I wanted to buy him gifts that he would be able to leave at my house so he had stuff to play with when he came over(ex. legos,ps2 games, etc.). Well all of the stuff he wants is stuff that would be hard for him to leave just at my house( gameboy games,IPOD, guitar ect) and in the past things like these get brought to him moms house and get "left" there. So dads what do you do for x-mas when your divorced? Should I get the stuff he wants knowing they will just end up at my exwifes house?

Answer 1

You could get him things, and if he wants to bring them to his mom's house, fine. He may play with whatever you got him there because it makes him feel closer to you when he's there. When you go to pick him up, tell him to bring some toys with him.

Answer 2

I can see where you're coming from, I had the same problem a few years ago.

The best thing is to find out what he really wants and then get it for him and don't worry too much where it ends up.

If he ends up with the same thing at both houses, it doesn't really matter because they're his things.

Be there for him and do stuff with him and he'll be ok.

My daughter had a computer and a PS2 at both houses and it worked out fine, she just brought the games when she came to stay with me, she also had a memory stick for the computer so she could do her homework at either house.

It should work out ok, just be cool.

Answer 3

My dad got me a motorcycle. Well he dang shure can't take that home to mommy.
It's time anyway I rode my first bike when I was 5, that was even before I could reach the pedals on a reg bicycle

Answer 4

This is not about you dad, it is about your child. Get him what he wants and quit worrying about what will or will not end up at your ex's house.

Good luck.

Answer 5

just get him what he wants im sure he loves u and will keep loving u your his dad