me and my husband separated 2 months ago , he treated me really bad because i had fund out i was pregnant and then had a misscarrige, i try to call him to get the rest of my stuff but he ignore me, he dont want me to come arounsd so he serve me a injuction on domestic abuse! this has mothing to do with he not wantting me around, and he was the one that use to abuse me ! i dont get it....now i have a court date intwo weeks and on the staement he wrote that i scratch , slap , and curse at him at his job and the house and text messages, okay i never physical abuse him those things on the statement are false....the only thing that is true is yes i did text him mean things but he did too! should i be worried going to court? how should i defend myself? i really dont want to get charged for things that is false, and plus why in the world would he do that injuction over domestic abuse if i left him 2 months ago/??? can some one really help me ...i really dont have a lawyer or thinkitsths seriu
2007-11-22 13:26:54 · 7 answers · asked by rhea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Chances are you are going to have a restraining order put against you for no contact...don't be to stressed about it....while you are in court ask the judge to set a time for you to come to pick up your things....don't be afraid to ask...they will do this for you. They are used to married couples breaking up and all of the crap that goes on then...the judge isn't going to stick you in jail..he or she will set guidelines to follow to eliminate it from happening again..that is all.
2007-11-22 13:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation and I managed to avoid court and that cost me to abandon my belongings but I saw the stage set in a situation just like yours. Ok, you are going to court and you can't avoid it for what it looks like. Don't even consider thinking on going there with the best lawyer you can afford. It's not too bad to say mean things, it's part of a split sometimes. In an abusive relationship, both parties believe the abuser is the other one, there is one that is the one who does the violent part either phisically or verbally, but both believe they are the abused, and the problem is that both parties try to control each other, just do a research about abusive relationships also www.drirene.com. This IS serious in what you are now, avoid as much as you can a restraining order, and only with a lawyer you can do it. Don't contact this person anymore, everything will be used against you, even things you didn't think that can be used. Assume you are in serious trouble, expect the best, prepare for the worst.
2007-11-22 14:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go into court without an attorney. Borrow some money from friends or family if you have to.
2007-11-22 13:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this story is true ( and I do not think it is) you need a lawyer. Make sure you have him pay you, b/c you need to go back to school and get and eduction.
2007-11-22 13:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get legal aid or ask a lawyer for advice
2007-11-22 13:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney and fast!
2007-11-22 13:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can but you will lose got to have a lawer
2007-11-22 13:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋