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I just posted a very good news on yahoo answers
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And right now my husband asked me that " If it is Okay that you do faternity test. Will you be offended". He said he always thought about doing that whenever he has child.
we married for 5 months. I was virgin when I met him. I never had any relationship with someone. He wasn't virgin when he met me. I came from a very traditional background and would never even think about someone else. Is that okay for him to ask these kind of questions.

i don't want to do that. Why would I. How could he say that to me. I never cheated on him ever.

sorry its paternity test.

Answer 1

And you've been married only five months? Just wait until the newness wears off. If it isn't the baby's father that he's doubting you about it'll be something else for the rest or your days (or marriage, which every ends first). And don't think he's ever going to trust you because he's going to suspect you of sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry that comes along now and forever. If anything, I'd suspect he's the one that's been cheating on you. Too often the person making the accusations is accusing the other person of exactly what they've been doing. By the way, does he have a bad temper and does he get physically abusive? If so, clear out and don't look back. He sounds a lot like my ex brother-in-law, before they married he was nice and attentive but after a couple months of marriage, he was pounding on her with things like skillets, sticks of firewood, etc.

Answer 2

First off, congratulations on the baby, you sound so excited! That is a wonderful thing. Secondly, you mean your husband wants a paternity test? I would be highly offended. He thinks you are cheating on him! He thinks someone else is the father of your child. I would be in tears. Tell him that. I think, if it were me, we would be fighting big time. If you have never been with anyone else, tell him that. To me, he would have ruined a very special moment. I do hope that your pregnancy goes well and you have an adorable, precious child.

Answer 3

Do you mean a paternity test??? That is when you, your spouse, and the child go have blood tests done to see if he's the father.

If this is what you are asking, and you have been faithful, and know for a fact it is his child, I would say hell yes!!!!

My oldest daughter's dad had this done, and I knew he was the father, so I didn't have anything to worry about.

My second husband accused me of messing around on him while he was in prision, he mentioned several times he didn't know if our kids were his. I told him Let's go get blood tests, but he never did. He knew, he was just being an ***.

My oldest daughter's dad looks like an idiot, the test came back 99.9%, you can't get no higher, there is no such thing as 100%.

All I've got to say is GO FOR GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

There is something wrong with your husband's question.
Did he know you was a virgin? It sounds to me like he is showing weakness due to his past. You should sit down and tell him that you are very traditional and there is no need to wonder or worry, but that you would be willing to take the test. After taking the test tell him if he ever cheats on you, you will cut his johnson off and stick it in his butt.

Answer 5

According to one of the Psychology Classes I took, 70% of men have affairs, 60% of women have affairs, DNA shows 10% of children invovled in divorce cases don't belong to the man who thought he was the father.

Based on this, I don't think anyone should be offended at having a DNA test done unless they have something to hide. It establishes paternity beyond all doubt and creates trust.

Answer 6

It's called a paternity test...and damn right I would be offended if my husband asked me to do a paternity test when I know that I have only been with him...your husband really has a lot of faith in you huh?

Answer 7

No, it's not really OK for him to be asking questions like that. You're married and there should really not be trust issues. But if it makes him feel better let him do the test.

He will end up looking like the idiot when it turns out to be his child.

Good luck!

Answer 8

While in some countries this would be an insult to the wife, the best thing is to just do it and don't worry about it. You know it is your husbands but to satisfy his family and stop the gossip before it starts, do it just to prove it is his. Then make him buy you an expensive present for insulting your virtue and loyalty.

Answer 9

I think its an insult to your loyalty and faithfulness to him and the marriage. Since you've no worries about your stand, just agree with the test. But tell him that you feel hurt and insulted about his idea. Oh my god.. How can your husband suggest this?

Answer 10

if you were a virgin you have nothing to worry about,, whats the problem??????????