I love my girlfriend like crazy and I was planning on asking her to marry me when our anniversary comes up in a few months.
But she recently deciced to quit her job and go back to school. I'm already in graduate school. Her attitude toward school is a lot more intense than mine, and she made some comments about us being in "transition periods" now. Frankly, it kinda makes me want to quit school and get a job... lately I feel like one degree is enough.
But in any case, do you HAVE to be stable financially to get married? In my grad program, most of them are already married.
Do you have to choose BETWEEN a career and family life?
2007-11-22 12:40:42 · 8 answers · asked by menorans23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having a stable career helps a whole lot just give her a minute to find herself and she will be practically begging you to marry her.
2007-11-22 12:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never chose family over a career. Family becomes important once you have it, not before. Now you need to work on yourself and become financial secure in your future, assume this is a girlfriend and may be temporarily while you are growing as a person. You have signs that she is starting to like the outside world like "transitions", be ready, prepare your heart. Whatever happens is going to happen anyway, the stronger you become the less impact the problem is going to cause on you. It's a lot better being splitting with someone when things in your financial area are doing well, than when they are doing bad and even worse when you quit opportunities of being well just for the person that is leaving you. Keep working on your career, the right woman will bare with you whatever you do, whatever you choose.
2007-11-22 14:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cost of living is the cost of living whether you go to school or have a career. If people needed to be stable financially, most would never get married.
2007-11-22 12:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has a college degree and a stable career. i only have an associates degree and a underpaying secretarial job. we could get by fine on his salary alone but i am going back to school full time as of next semester. im doing this for myself and it has nothing to do with needing a stable career as most likely once i graduate i will only work part time anyway.
2007-11-22 13:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't HAVE to have a stable career to get married...but apparently your girlfriend thinks so.....It would be of a great benefit to at least have a stable job before getting married...You can have a career and a family life...its your choice!
2007-11-22 12:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best that you have a stable job. Now days it takes two to work and have a family. It is good that she is going back and finish. Take your time and get every thing done and then think about marrage. If you love each other you can wait.
2007-11-22 12:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two can live as cheaply as one, just for half as long though.
I worked at nights and went to school during the day. You will do what you have to do to get what you really want. If you drop out of school though, you are making a decision that will have an adverse effect on your relationship in the future.
2007-11-22 12:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Ranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I think you should do what is best for you. A lot of women put that pressure on men. Rubbish!!!! Just be the best you can be and things will work out.
2007-11-22 12:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by fred g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋