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Ive been with my girlfriend for a year. and I am IN love with her, I want to marry her, she gives me butterflies, and im very attracted to her. The thing is I also think that im bisexual. Ive never been with a guy and never plan to be (because I plan on being with my gf forever and I dont plan to cheat) shes the only person I've ever told. and she flipped out when I told her. I mean screaming, crying, broke up with me (for a day, then we got back together) I told her about a month ago and now shes been acting all weird. She said that she heard that guys cant just be "bi" and that bi guys are just gay guys who havent realized it or are afraid. but I really am attracted to her! cant she obviosuly see that when we have sex? (not to be crude...but come on) she also said that she is wprroed that if we get married then I might suddenly one day, in 10 years, realize that I am actually gay and leave her. who said that guys cant be bi?! because I know Im attracted to her!

2007-11-22 12:23:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

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Society tends to pull **** out of their asses saying that bisexuals are immoral, or are "unfaithful" beacuse of their sexuality concernig of both sexes. Any person, reguardless of sexuality, can be either faithful or unfaithful. It is not the sexuality- it is the person as a whole. If you cannot see yourself cheating on her in the future, then you are a faithful, good person. The end. Tell her that, and she may open her eyes to the real meaning of "bisexuality".

2007-11-22 12:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have heard the same thing about bisexual females and it is just as much bunk for girls as for guys. She has real concerns. Your best bet at this point is to honestly address them. She will want to be reassured and if you get defensive as you did here then that will not work for her. Also, she is probably wondering the same thing I am and that is if you plan to marry her and remain faithful to her forever why did you tell her? Think about that one because anything less than an honest answer is going to make things worse. Sit down with her and talk to her now and get this settled if you want to remain in a relationship with her.

2007-11-22 20:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 0 0

I think it's a common concern for anyone dating someone that's bisexual. I've gotten the exact same response from people before, and you can make as many logical and passionate arguments as you want (and they might even do some good) but I think it's something that really only time can convince her of. Just stick with it and eventually she'll come to realize that you aren't going to suddenly wake up one morning and say to her, "Honey, I'm sorry, but I think I want some penis today. "

2007-11-22 21:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mandeh 2 · 0 0

Anyone can be bi. Being bisexual is really normal and you need to prove to her that you are a normal guy who loves and cherishes her and that you will never cheat on her with another man.

2007-11-22 20:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by dudeboy 4 · 1 0

She's too afraid to see beyond the fact that you might be covering up the fact that you are gay by saying that men cannot be bisexual.

It doesn't matter as long as you know you won't break her heart. That's all she cares, now.

2007-11-22 20:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by 1011101 3 · 0 0

b4 u can ask 4 her hand in marriage you have 2 make up your mind nobody could do it 4 you but you..... no I'm not trying to say guys cant b bi but you cant cheat on her with another guy

2007-11-22 21:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by DimePiece210 S.A.T.F 2 · 0 0

unfortunately someone has drummed into her head that bis are realy gays,

its a common misconception because many guys who turn gay began by saying theyre Bi.

all you can do is show her that you love her and she may come around in time.

2007-11-22 20:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Paul E 5 · 0 0

ppl ppl ppl.........
love is love and gender should not matter
she should be thankful that u told her early and not wait until 30 years later lol
idk...u have to convince her that u love her and that there is no one else
awww...it does sound like u really are in love :)

2007-11-22 23:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

its becuase she not as open to love as you are
love doesnt judge.

♪

2007-11-22 20:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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