Last weekend we did it. It was with a old girl that I have know for a long time. It happened spontaneously and it was amazing. We talked about last night and she is interested in doing it again. Should I ride the donkey tell it falls down, or put a stop to it before it goes wrong.
2007-11-22 11:36:13 · 29 answers · asked by funkyballs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is always an extremely huge possibility of hurting a relationship with a three some. You need to talk to her and the other girl and let them know how you feel and that you still love your wife. There is always the possibility of someone becoming jealous or too attached and things can get messy. If everyone is on the same page though, you can have a lot fun and still have a strong relationship.
2007-11-22 11:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by Nicholas 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are so many answers on here from people who are insecure and jealous and just downright judgmental.
Could it hurt your marriage? Sure, if you don't keep in mind that your marriage is the most important thing. As a friend once said: "Swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it sure as heck won't hurt a good one."
As long as both of you are emotionally mature enough to know the difference between fantasy and reality you'll never have any problems with this - reality being your marriage to each other and fantasy being your experiences with this other woman.
Basically, your marriage is the cake and having a threesome every now and then is the icing on the cake. Nothing more. You have to pay attention to the cake and make sure all the ingredients are in it to keep in from crumbling. You and your wife come before anybody else, period.
So if you can keep you head on straight about it, and you are both into this and neither of you is convincing, manipulating, or coercing the other into do it, and you can set-out some ground rules and stay within those boundaries, you'll have a great time and done right, you'll discover great things about each other and develop a trust that few will ever know.
For some real information that will actually help you, from those that have done it and are still married years down the road, check-out The Swingers Board forums at http://www.swingersboard.com .
2007-11-22 14:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did it. You cannot turn back time. The best you can do is keep and grow a great communication with your wife. If this is what she truly desires, then it is up to you. Just be aware that is could become a loss of your marriage, if jealousy comes into play. you two MUST talk this thoroughly.
There is nothing wrong with a poly-relationship if eveyone is mutually accepting and loving. the key to this is good respect and communication.
be aware that your wife might want a one-n-one with your lady-friend. YOU do not have a one-on-one with your lady-friend UNLESS you get an ABSOLUTE green light from your wife!!!
DO NOT play an assuming game here. Be certain what your wife wants, what you want, your intentions, her intentions.
This can work, but just don't be stupid, and don't think that it CAN'T end your marriage.
You MUST be open to all possible outcomes. Don't become a hater from all this, since you authorized it to happen in the first place.
best to the three of you...
email me direct if you have any further questions on this...
2007-11-22 16:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Julie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know, some of the people that respond to yahoo answers say they love the experience in the beginning but somewhere down the line jealousy and opposition creeps in. The majority of the time, not all the time marriages break up because of this. You and your wife need to sit down and actuall discuss the pros and cons of having a threesome. If you do decide to go ahead with it then a cut off point needs to be established when someone feels uncomfortable or wants out. Another thing that needs to be considered is that the vows and the chasity of marriage has been broken, when this is done. Please get an understanding before you decide to preceed forward in this.
2007-11-22 11:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you keep no secrets from each other your marriage should be fine. Enjoy. My wife and I had a threesome. But that was 10 years before our marriage ended. It ended because she started having an affair and lying about it...trust was lost. However, you should pay attention to your uneasiness.
2007-11-22 11:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ride, Postman, RIde!!!
Enjoy this while it lasts but start saving for a lawyer now. Since she is pushing the envelope, you are in a no win situation. If you say no, then she will probably do it without you. If you say yes, then you are opening the door for jealously or worse, her leaving with another woman. So have fun while it lasts.
2007-11-22 11:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you continue this immoral behavior it will eventually destroy your marriage. It seems like fun now but in the long run, you will mistrust each other and you will dig a hole for yourself that you will never get out of. Put a stop to it now before immorality takes hold of you like a vice and destroys everything you care about in your life.
2007-11-22 12:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends what you want to get out of it.. if your relationship is strong and it's just for fun that's great.. but if there are issues in the marriage and your running to others to try to fix the problems it will only blow up in your face
2007-11-22 11:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by Psychocollector 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What part was she interested in? Seeing you with an ex? What are you going to do if she wants the next 3 way MFM?
I'd put a stop to it now.
2007-11-22 11:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ya know????? Seriously though, I know two couples that have done this and in both cases the wife left because she fell for the other woman... Good luck.
2007-11-22 12:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋