My kids all just left with my little grandchildren in tow! It was a busy active day from the first step out of bed. Now, in the quiet that follows, I find myself feeling alone and lonely. Is that selfish and stupid? I am blessed and know I am, but still sitting here by myself......
2007-11-22 11:33:02 · 28 answers · asked by ganna 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
All of you were so kind. The prayer, I appreciated and joined in, the specified cry time advice I took, the empathy I appreciated, and the Bible reading and music playing, praise AND Christian worship AND Christmas I played loudly, and my heart was glad that others understood and tolerated my moment. I FEEL BETTER! THANKS TO ALL OF YOU!!!
2007-11-24 12:57:44 · update #1
I say be happy that you spent the time with them today. Now you can keep yourself busy planning the next holiday festivities. Maybe start on your gift shopping list or decorations?
2007-11-22 11:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by luv2bfit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Ganna, it isn't. I am a missionary in Central America. I have recently had heart surgery and could not do the cooking, so my husband did - but it made me so sad I cried. My 2 children and 5 grandchildren are all in the states...so of course I was also homesick. Due to my health issues we couldn't even invite anyone over or go anywhere.
I feel lonely and sad, but at the same time I am grateful to be alive and to have a precious husband that was willing to take over when necessary.
So here is what you do. allow yourself to be sad for a specified amount of time. Go ahead and have a good cry. Then when your allotted time is up (20 - 30 mins) get up wash your face and turn on your favorite music. Sing some praises, pick up that book you have been wanting to read...or a few scriptures, say a prayer. Later call your children and tell them how very glad you are that they were able to come and share the day with you.
Always remember no matter how alone you may feel, you aren't.
janis
2007-11-22 19:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Belize Missionary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. NO it is not selfish nor stupid that you find yourself feeling alone and lonely. I am spending my Thanksgiving alone because my parents are going into dementia (my mom is) and they've stopped celebrating holidays a long time ago. I was hoping to be invited to my aunt's house because she always has a million people there; all of my cousins and their children and there's always tons of food and everyone is talking at once. I've just cleaned out my closet and have put away three bags of clothes to donate. I guess I did something. But, please, do not feel guilty. I've never been fortunate enough to have been a mother, so count your blessings right there. Your children and grandchildren love you and that's the most important thing. :o)
2007-11-22 19:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. That is how I feel too. I worked so hard to make it nice and it was okay. I got a thank you from everyone They took some desserts home and then I cleaned the kitchen and now all I have left to do is sit her and agree with you. My husband it taking the holiday nap. and our son is still raiding the kitchen. There's even people here with me but they are very preoccupied . It really wore them out to have a nice visit. I kinda wish the football game would be over. Some daily television would be better than sitting here feeling lonely.
Well My Friend Its just you and me now...
So Happy Thanksgiving
2007-11-22 19:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little for me too this year. The family dinner was a joke. Less than half of us showed this year. The meal was simple and quick. The whole thing was over in an hour and I went home after watching the game with Dad. Now here I sit.
2007-11-22 19:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only feeling Lonely cuz you are alone at this moment in body. But know that those kids & grandkids are saying " wow, what a good time at gramma's house". after having a house full of people, it is normal to feel lonely when they all leave, as do I know, except i left that house and now sit here alone, but not lonely.!
2007-11-22 19:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by mernieinc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel that way, its not selfish its a normal feeling to feel lonely after you have had all those people around. When they get back just enjoy the time you spend with them. It is the holiday season when families and friends get together, it only comes once a year so enjoy it. When they get back home just have a great time with them.
2007-11-22 19:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wasn't it wonderful to have the kids over?
Now, go to the movies this evening. Lots of good shows this time of year. Call a neighbor that might be spending Tgiving alone and have left overs at your place.
Don't let the quiet part of the holiday bring you down, make things happen to stay busy.
Good luck
2007-11-22 19:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone!!!!! Believe me I know many people that are alone on all holidays including this one.... The will spend the rest of the night in front of the tv , then get into a cold lonely bed......But on the other side,
there are plenty of lonely people in bed dying in the hospital tonight or suffer every breath.... So, just try to be happy........
Read the bible, and realize we are never alone............
2007-11-22 19:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I always feel lonely, I have a small family now since my grandparents died. I just make the best of it because I'm still pretty lucky to have both parents and a sister, some people don't even have that.
2007-11-22 19:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Emilia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋