I have been dating this man for 2 1/2 months, during this time I have met his family and friends . Things were going very well, until little by little he stopped texting me little messages, he did not call as often as he used to. And yesterday we were supposed to see each other and he did not call me back to confirm. I have not herd from him since. Last night I talked to one of his friends online and he advised me not to get to attached to my man. He told me that he was a good friend but not a boyfriend material since he is immature. Basically, he told me that I was too good for him. The problem is that I really like him. What to do? Should I move on? I have a feeling that perhaps he lost interest or he prefers spending time with his x-box/friends rather then me.
2007-11-22 11:31:06 · 16 answers · asked by Natalia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From what you've wrote, seems like your guy has already lost interest in you. You should be happy that both of you are not married or have kids yet. I think you should move on with your life. Better to end the relationship with him now than later. If he's matured or responsible enough, he'll not do such things to you already. Who knows he may have another woman in his life now. One thing for sure is he doesn't put you in his priority at all. So why still waste your time on such a man?
2007-11-22 12:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be way off base here but you sound terribly needy to me. Some men just don't feel the need for constant conversation. He may be confident enough to realize that a couple of days without contact shouldn't be the end of the world. Why is it that you need constant reassurance from him? Why do you need the constant little texting? And why is it that if you can't talk to him, you're online with his friend? I don't know what YOU should do but I think he should find a woman with some self confidence and a life of her own that he can make better........instead of being under your microscope and at the end of your leash. Maybe you should go out with his friend. When a guy says you're too good for someone else, he really means you're just good enough for him instead. No friend will call his buddy immature to a woman unless he intends to take the chatterbox to his own bed if he can. I get the idea that any man who sits and listens to you ramble might just get that off
2007-11-22 13:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been dating very long, and he's already being like this. I'd say run, run fast. My relationship started out the same way, and lets just say six years later....nothing, nothing not married not engaged and he still would rather play video games or do anything other than spend time with me.
These types of guys are immature and very selfish.
Hope that's not too harsh
2007-11-22 11:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, I have a feeling that perhaps he lost interest or he prefers spending time with his x-box/friends rather then me. I have a feeling you are right... MOVE ON with your life.. we cant always be that special someone for everyone we meet. You didnt win this time so play the game again. Who knows whats waiting for you.
2007-11-22 12:22:24 · answer #4 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to make him want to do these things. Play hard to get. Do cool things for him, then back off. When he plays with his x box cronies, go out with the girls. He will see how much fun you are capable of being and find time.
Quit talking to his friends online. That is stalkerish
2007-11-22 12:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about him ignoring you and such. Ask him if he is really interested in being in this relationship or not. If it happens again or he doesn't give a clear response, I would take his friend's advice and try to move on. Some people just aren't ready to be in a relationship.
2007-11-22 11:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Nicholas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop calling him, my mom used to tell me that if a guy is really interested in you he will find the way to be in touch with you, so if he isn't calling you that means..,. he´s not interested, or at least not as much as you are, don't waste your time, move on, play hard to get, see what happens if he reacts ....good if he doesn't.... well at least you know it
2007-11-22 11:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by mommy of 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not worth your time if he can't call now just think how he would be later on down the road move on and get a real man he is not one...he is a child in a man body...good luck
2007-11-22 12:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a joke about your situation, without going over it word by word...its goes like this, a girlfriend worries about his lack of companionship and his demeanor when he is with her lately....she enters this in her diary...he writes in his diary ' what am i doing wrong in my golf game, damn it'
you will know one way or another when he straightens his golf game.
the moral is guys and girls just don't think along the same lines. watch out for his best friend, he's trying to get in your pants.
2007-11-22 12:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by johnmiriani@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just how old are you?
Three months for the teens, if you are a teenager sounds about right.
Time to find another. This one is so over.
The Rat
2007-11-22 11:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋