Do you and your wife have the same sex drive? I'm having some difficulty because my sex drive is way higher than my husbands and its been this way for about two years. He has gained some weight and now feels unattractive. Any advice or suggestions would be great!
2007-11-22 11:12:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the advice but just to make things clearer I have talked to him about it, assured him I still want him, done the outfits and all that already
2007-11-22 11:33:57 · update #1
I have read several of your questions and it seems like you are still growing sexually and your husband needs to exercise and get his metabolism going a bit. Otherwise, you will find yourself divorced before you reach 35. From your questions, he is well on his way to routine but you are far above him in activity level. This is a REAL problem in lots of marriages. If you can not get him motivated, you will either cheat on him or you will be VERY frustrated until you divorce him. Exercise will get things stimulated again and cause him to want sex more. If he is unwilling to get started, then get started with the paperwork. Good Luck.
2007-11-22 11:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We did until our first child came along, then it was all downhill and she would "let" me have sex once a month. On really lucky months I'd get it twice. Her sex drive didn't improve until she started banging a cowboy while I was home cleaning house, washing clothes and feeding the kids in addition to having a full time job. She's now my ex wife. Oh, the cowboy thing fizzled out but she has married a guy that retired a millionaire at 46. Just goes to show that she was a lot smarter than me.
2007-11-22 21:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just appreciate him and make him feel attractive as his self esteem maybe very low from putting on the pounds...
Go for walks together or do sumthing fun and active together to get his energy levels up... Just assure him that u still love him and find him attractive even if he has put on a lil weight - he may feel comfortable in his skin once he has heard u re-assure him .. Then make things romantic in the bedroom and have fun ..
2007-11-22 19:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is unusual........Maybe he is having some sexual problems and does not know how to tell you.... For men most of the time weight is not a problem unless he has some kind of health problem... My advice is to either talk with him and find out if he is having a sexual problem or keep a close eye on him and make sure hes not getting it from some where else .
2007-11-22 19:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My man gained some pounds and for a while it was like that too. I helped him change his diet and he dropped a few pounds but is still hefty. I just treat him the same way I did when he had his six-pack abs. There's just more to hang on to now! I dress sexy for him and talk dirty to him and I do all those things that drive him crazy with lust.
2007-11-22 19:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by peggy m 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kendal, I saw his pic. on your 360. Look no offense but he should see a dr. about your question. Its entirley possible that some medical condition can be causeing him a problem sexualy. Like maybe hes suffering from E.D. an don't want to admit it to you.
In a heavy person, diabetes could be possible, thyroid trouble, amongst other causes. If he's on meds some meds cause sexual troubles.
Again no offense meant by my comments, I hope things get back to normal for both you.
2007-11-22 19:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by hotvw1914cc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dress in some sexy outfits and seduce him. Most men can't resist that. As for his weight work with him to lose it.
2007-11-22 19:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by stevel226 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you still love him.. and find him sexy.. always tell me atleast once a day that he is sooo sexxxy.. sooner or later he will start to believe it..if he ask how can you fine some one who has gained so much weight sexy.. tell him you fell in love with him.. his soul and who he is.. not his looks.. and that you would love him no matter what he looks like.. and then ask him would'nt he he the same way about you???.. and he could be suffering from ED and to embarrsed to tell you.. talk to him about it..see if he has a promblem it that area,,
2007-11-22 20:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is about as normal as breathing. If you discover a good answer or a cure, put it in a bottle and sell it. You will make millions.
2007-11-22 19:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a cell phone with a camera? If so, send him some dirty pics while he is at work. This will help get his mind off his work and on more important matters.
2007-11-22 19:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋