how do you be proud of being gay?

Question

I'm gay and I accept it, but I can't help but think how much easier life would've been if I wasn't :( how do you get over this?

Answer 1

I am proud to hold my head high and say I'm a gay man. Twenty years ago, we couldn't do that. What do we have to be proud of? I don't know. How about all of our brothers and sisters before us who fought the prejudice, ridicule and harassment so we can walk around openly today? What about all our brothers and sisters who challenged the system and changed legislature so that we could not be openly discriminated against? What about all the brothers and sisters before us who have fallen to the beatings? Who got there heads bashed in? Who died in back alleys and on public streets at the hands of Gay Bashers? What about Matthew Sheppard? You should look into some of our history man. You have a lot to be proud of!!! :@)

Answer 2

Feeling that life would be easier if you were not gay is being realistic. Being unrealistic would be to try to deny who you are and make yourself miserable in an attempt to make your life easier. Acceptance is good, and I believe that you will in time get used to the trash talking we all endure. Over time and as your skin gets tougher, I think that you will begin to be proud to be the person you are and realize that you are much happier than you would have been if you had tried to deny it.

Answer 3

Being gay should be something to embrace. Everyone's different and that definatly includes members of the gay community.

There are homosexuals who wear their 'label' on their sleeve. And then their are some of us who like to remain a bit quiet on our feelings.

It's ok to think that life would be easier, because it would. But members of the gay community are stronger, we have the ability to go against the norm and be who we are truly meant to be.

Basically, I just live life as I am.

Answer 4

Be happy with who you are and surround yourself with people who support you. You are born who you are. It's not like you woke up one morning and said "Hey I think I'll be gay from now on" It's not a choice ... it's who you are. When you are proud of who you are don't worry what others think. It's not the easiest road to travel but when you have friends and family that support you then you will be fine. I have many friends who are gay and it doesn't bother me to hang out with them. They are just reg. people like everyone else. They don't run around saying they are gay just like I don't run around saying I'm straight. What goes on behind closed doors should stay behind closed doors. There are many "straight" relationships where the relationship is unhealthy and violent so does that make it right because they are straight? NO! And there are many gay relationships where they are crazy in love and it's a strong healthy family. Does it make it wrong because they are gay? NO again! Be who you are and be proud of who you are.

Answer 5

Yah, being the two heterosexual or gay guy or woman, it is in no way something to be pleased with on account which you're born with it. i think under pressure in specific circumstances once I see those gay human beings come out to protest or have fun on the gay delight day. Sexual orientation is greater like area of our personalities i assume, no longer in any style of accomplishments that we attempt complicated to attain and be triumphant. besides the undeniable fact that, in case you're saying being a gay guy or woman who has been in closet for all his/her lifestyles and finally summon up the braveness to return out and face to the international, then that's a distinctive tale. because of the fact it does choose lot of braveness to make it. might desire to be style of an accomplishment in tricky his/her problems.

Answer 6

Life would be easier for folks who are left-handed if they'd been born right-handed (due to the way tools are manufactured, etc.) How many lefthanders would ask if they should be proud to be lefties?

Sexual orientation is nothing more than variations of NORMALCY. Just as handedness and eye color are. NONE of those variations are anything either to be "proud of" or "not proud of." Simply ENJOY your sexuality as most gays and straights do, and be glad you weren't born with the sex drive of a eunuch.

-- "Roadrat" -- Normal Christian, sensible, reasonably-intelligent, staunch advocate of EQUAL rights for all, including SSM for gays... father of 3 & grandfather of 7.

Answer 7

Just be more open about who you are. I'm about the most out person in my school. I make jokes about myself all the time so that there is no one around me who doubts my sexuality. In class if someone says that something is gay, I yell, NO ITS STRAIGHT!!! and in spanish class we were learning how to give directions, and when we were learning how to say "to go straight", I raised my hand and told the entire class that I refused to go straight ever, and that made everyone laugh. Just be comftorable with yourself and who you are. I think the best way is to be as out as you possibly can. I'm proud of who I am, and everyone...i mean EVERYONE knows it.

Answer 8

Society - principally under the influence of "loving" religious leaders - has told you that you are living a sinful existence.
It is not easy to deal with being a member of any oppressed minority, to handle being despised simply for what you are.

You can gain self-respect by associating with people who understand that you don't have a "sexual preference". You have a "sexual orientation". You are gay by your nature, not because you made a choice.

You can find strength in knowing that homosexuality is not "abnormal". It is just rather uncommon.

And you can find a loyal and loving partner, who'll let you know that you are valued and cherished.

Answer 9

To be proud of ones self is all about living congruetly with your values. You are who you are, if you dont accept this, how can others? Being true to yourself is what matters, once you have acceptance within your self others will see this.

Answer 10

You should be proud being you !!! and live your life in a way that helps you to do that
Whether you are black / white , Christian / Atheist , Gay or Straight doesn't matter it is what you do with your life , how you treat other people and being a decent citizen !!