i am a good girl for the most part. i party and drink but for the most part i am good. . I am 5'4, 120 pounds, black hair and eyes, 36d, flat tummy, athletic and tan and in good shape. i get checked out by guys but its always by bad boys and those r the ones i go for then and end up getting hurt. u dont know what i do wrong and what good guys like?
2007-11-22 08:34:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am not a slut for those who dont know who have no idea what u r taking bout, i party and drink, BUT i still have my virginity and i refuse to loose it to an idiot. so if u dont have suggestions, keep your mouth shut please.
2007-11-22 08:48:35 · update #1
Yea everyone can get a "good guy" you just might be looking in the wrong place. You said you drink and party (which there is nothing wrong with) but most of the time when you hang around the party scene you will be around the type of guys who are into that scene as well (the bad boys mentioned). Not to say there arent exceptions, but yea like I said maybe you are just looking in the wrong place. Good luck = )
-Matt
Oh and Mel, I am 6'2 blonde with blonde hair and blue eyes and I face your struggle as well. What you look like has nothing to do with you being a jerk or not.
2007-11-22 08:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by mtrettin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other answers. Sounds like you are looking in the wrong places...
Let me put it this way....If you look inside a trash can, what do you expect to find? A jewel? Something valuable?
Chances are you will find trash...right?
The same thing happens with people.
If you go to bars, gyms, clubs and such places, you will meet people who want to party and have a good time; they are not looking for anything serious or long-term.
You might also try to analyze your image and what "message" you send to others. (Women who complain that they are "not taken seriously" when they show up at a job interview -while wearing a miniskirt and stiletto heels- make people laugh.) You have to look on the outside as you feel inside. So be careful with your clothes and makeup.
So if you are looking for a nice guy, look in other places...like a book club or a language class or church. Usually nice men are also looking for nice women, but they tend to be shy.
Good luck...and be patient.
2007-11-22 09:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to look at yourself and see what it is about you that you need to change so that the right guys will start looking at you. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places, and some time its what they can't see that is of more interest to the good guys. The bad ones just want to sample the goods, they couldn't care less if you got anything out of it. Look at what you want , and start there. How do you want to be treated? Like a bimbo or a lady? Act the part and let them sweat it out. They always want what they can't have.
2007-11-22 08:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question was grammatically poor. But let's seei fI can understand.
Basically, you are a hot girl who gets lots of attention. You like this attention and love bad boy types because they look better to you. You want them to behave and treat you with respect because there ain;t no way in hell that you would be with a "lesser man". And everyone should pity you.
Ok, my response is to grow up. Bad boys get away with it because of girls like you. Pretty girls act disgustingly because guys let them get away with it.
you have two choices.
A. Accept your fate and get treated like crap from bad boys but at least they are "hot" and you can show them off to your silly shallow friends
or
B. Develop some character and understand that "hot" looks are fleeting. Care more about the person, be a kind loving woman and then you can have a satisfactory relationship with a worthy man. (even if a less than studly one).
Good luck
2007-11-22 08:40:21 · answer #4 · answered by James 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As an attractive woman myself, I have gotten a lot of attention in the past from "bad boy" types, and though it might be exciting to date them because they are handsome, whatever, you don't NEED to be with someone that is a jerk and mistreats you because they are pretty to look at. There is much more to life than looks. I ended up ditching those mean dudes and married a very sweet guy who loves me very much. He is handsome to me and I adore him because he's so nice and thinks I'm wonderful. Thats what makes a good marriage, find someone that likes you for who you are not what you look like.
2007-11-22 08:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to stop the reputation of being a total party girl. Good guys don't like that very much. Second I would suggest wearing modest clothes. Although you didn't described how you dressed here, I'm certain you might be wearing clothes that are skanky, and nice guys really hate that. They want smarts, personality, honesty, a great sense of humor, and a great smile.
2007-11-22 08:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Partying... drinking??
Definitely, the right kind of signals you want to send out.
Whether you are in the right place or not, you have control over aspect of life... for now.
James and Mel are pretty close to being right... Take command of your circumstances, change your venue, try different people or you'll be stuck on those losers who want you for eye candy or a romp in the hay.
In a nutshell, want respect? Demand it!
2007-11-22 10:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by asgodintended 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good guys like girls like you the only problem is girls like yoiu always go for jerks and don't give us a chance or even a look cause we are not 6'4" blond hair and blue eyed.
Sorry but those are the facts and I can almost gurantee the next guy you are with will be a jerk too I don't know what attracks girls to them cause they always get treated bad but these guys always get the nice girls and break their hearts.
2007-11-22 08:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Change your venue.
Spend some time at Church, Coffee Houses, or other kinds of cultural events. Depending on what you do, try and get involved in business groups or other civic organizations.
Good luck. You sound like a great person.
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