my husband left me in august 2 go & live with his daughter(who is now pregnant with twinsby ivf) & her boyfriend, he cant talk 2 me if they are around yet he tells me he wants 2 save our marriage but is not willing 2 move bk 2 our marital home but he is living in his ex martital & his daughter's ex marital(long story) home, the house is rented by his daughter & her boyfriend off my husband's ex wife( get that if u will)! He is applying 4 housin off the local council & expects me 2 move 2 be near him but he is not willing 2 give anything in exchange, am i a fool or wot????
2007-11-22 08:25:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had been lookin after my husband 4 2 yrs alone cos he had 3 stroke in total, his daughter only became involved sept of last yr, wen she suddenly started 2 stay with us That wen he changed & since then he been up & down 2 visit scotland like a yoyo!wen he left i had a nervous breakdown because I had no help from anyone(not even his family)but i still love him that stupid thing .I know i shud tell him 2 get lost but deep down I know he my soulmate(if I cud only get his daughter out of way),she got her life 2 live with her partner & babies that due, but she, her sister & my husband ex wife more interested in sortin his llife out.I feel like im fightin a losin battle.
2007-11-22 09:16:26 · update #1
sorry to E rain i just type it as easilyly as pos,i'm in catch 22, i love him & want to be with him but his family are making it very hard. My family understand where i'm coming from, u can't just throw 8yrs away especially after what we been through, it goes deeper than than I can explain
2007-11-22 09:41:57 · update #2
thanks joan you just said wo t I been thinkin,it 3 month today since he left, but each day that goes by I get stonger & start to think I dont need him as much as he needs me. If he truly loved me then he would be here with me & not living in his ex marital home with his daughter & listening to her even tough she now been diagnosed with pre-natal depression & apparently will also have ante natal depression, i've had 5 kids & never been this bad. Basically I think she hated me from the start & this is just an excuse, am i being a b*****
2007-11-22 10:03:53 · update #3
Just say no!!!
Live your own life and be happy!
He sounds like he is the fool, not you, do not think of yourself that way, just say no, and live your life the way you want!!!!!
Personally, I would hate to live near him, I would hate to be involved in all the goofiness around there anyways!!!
2007-11-22 08:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your husbadn daugher and if i were you i would be careful about making him chose between the two of you. I would not leave my home to move what sense does that make he hasent time for you now it would be like the two of you grown peoople sneeking around. He doesnt want to comprimise that is what marriage is all about. But this is your choice not mines.
best of luck
2007-11-22 11:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is thee ea reason he felt he needed to move away from you? Stop feeling sorry for yourself if you want him fight for him or walk away and chalk it up as a mistake engagement. You need to make the decision what it is you want and go for it. If you love him than the answer is simple be with him.
2007-11-22 08:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She s a big girl cant she look after herself her ans her b/f wanted the baby's so why does granddaddy have to come help ??
He should be home with you and visiting them to help not the other way around
2007-11-22 09:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Myra N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a bigger fool than you realize. If you want to improve yourself, divorce this guy and make a habit out of using the spell check.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 09:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 11:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his family seems to have way too much say in his life. if he won't come home to the marital house, u may have to let him go. your a fool if u leave your home for a maybe thing. his family has way too much say.
2007-11-22 09:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,you need to do what is best for you.I think he is being extremely selfish maybe you need to have a good think.I wish you luck if you still love him then it will be so hard for you.Good
Luck
2007-11-22 08:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one that needs to get out and away and be happy and have a life for you..
2007-11-22 08:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Frank7757 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey there is so many fish in the sea don't wait any more time on him let him go free and be happy maybe he is still seeing the mother of his daughter too it seems to me that may be a big part of it...good luck and please move on.....be happy!!!!!
2007-11-22 13:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋