Been with the boyfriend for about 2 years. Sometimes I feel he wants me to break up with him, even though he tells me that he doesn't want that at all, and he hopes we get married. He doesn't act as sweet as he used to. Part of it is I can be very demanding sometimes. I always want to hang out. He tells me the reason why he's not as nice as he used to is all because of me. He says I expect too much from him, and expect him to be everything, and I'm going to have to learn that he can't be my everything. He also tells me that I won't ever find a guy who puts up with my crap, and that he puts up with so much. I was upset because today he didn't call and tell me happy thanksgiving, but he said I never gave him a chance to, and that he didn't want to waste his minutes because it costs too much money. He said that he was trying to save up money so he could do something fun with me. We're both 20 and studying abroad together. Do I need to change or Am I being taken for granted?
2007-11-22 07:36:24 · 10 answers · asked by Consultant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He tells me I need to respect him and his time, and if I can't do that things won't work between us. He says that I don't respect the fact that he has other things to do besides hang out with me. He says I'm too paranoid and need to relax.
2007-11-22 07:37:48 · update #1
He also tells me that I try too hard.
2007-11-22 07:38:37 · update #2
From what youve said here it sounds like you are too needy and clingy for him and that he needs some space. Try letting go and quit hanging on so tight and give him room to breathe. Men need space cuz womens emotions are hard for them to deal with. We need recoup time. Try not to be so clingy. Find other things to do and do not make him the absolute center of your life. Its ok for him to be a huge part of it but you cant be totally dependent on him.
2007-11-22 07:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear him saying a whole lot, of about what you need to do in order to make it work, in order for him to marry you, in order for him to be more interested in you! It seems that you are trying to hard to make him want you, when clearly that is not what he wants, and you seem to now be doubting yourself bc he said so, my suggestion is be comfortable with who you are. If you are demanding fine! There a lot worse things you could be, I say find a man who can deal with you as you are! And stop trying to force him to be that man! Its nothing wrong with you, and its nothing wrong with him, you guys just want different things out of the relationship.
2007-11-22 15:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and break it off with him !! It sounds like he can be a jerk and trust me any other man would be willing to put up with your crap i dont care how much it is... Some men are stupid and others just havent cought on to what your needs are LOL..but yea just break it off before it gets worse and can you imagine being married to him if he acts like this while your dating ?? Think about it.
2007-11-22 17:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit being so insecure. You each need a life apart from the one you have together or life will get terribly dull. Finds some things that interest you and get busy!
2007-11-22 16:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by misselie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He tells you that you won't ever find a guy to put up with your crap? Honestly, he sounds like a jerk to me. Telling someone that they will never find someone else is very controlling. I would get away from him.
2007-11-22 15:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by MK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the one with the problem. He's right, and if you continue you'll end up losing him. If you love him smartten up and learn to trust him and find a life of your own to keep you busy when he's busy.
2007-11-22 16:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some private time hon,it doesnt mean he is looking for another g/f, but just to be alone, think fix his car read a book etc.Give him a little breathing room or your going to drive him away.
2007-11-22 15:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I didn't read the question. I can tell by the length of the question that you are the one with the problem.
2007-11-22 16:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right. You have a fairly reasonable man in your hand and you don't want to lose him.
2007-11-22 15:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Belen 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-11-22 15:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by oklatom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋