Does anyone want to tell me their story?

Question

about their lives, who they are and who they became? who affected their lives for god or for worse, and what made them stronger? I want to know what other lives are like...I want to know if I am blessed or cursed, because looking back into a hurtful and disturbing past I feel cursed at the moment....but maybe I'm wrong.

Answer 1

lets see....

I won't describe every aspect of my life, because surprisingly,

not a lot of them affected me drastically, and I eventually got


over a lot of them. A big...arguement occurred between my

mom and sister, to the point of physical violence. My mom

eventually blew up, and got scissors to cut her hair for

punishment. Well, to say the least, things did not end good.

Eventually, because of that event, our family slowly broke

apart. We're still a "family," as in still living in the same house,

depending on each other on limited circumstances, but to call

ourselves a "family" as in people who have an awareness

with each other on emotional terms was no longer available.

Strange to say, 4 years from now, I still feel no directed

emotion to the event. But I've been hurt badly from the lack of

the feeling and security of the simple concept of "family."

We've gotten better...but heated arguements still occur

between my mom, dad and sister. My brother, whose 5 yeras

older than me (and my sister 3 years older than me) remained

on good terms with my mom and dad, and I guess was close

with my sister. I just kind of strayed from my family. I still live

with them, but I fail to feel any connection between any of

them. My sister had this spikey attitude that I just could not

see how anyone could deal with, my brother had an extremely

short temper, my dad the same, and my mom is impossible

to talk with because she brings in all this irrelevant stuff, and

things from the past into anything I try to talk with, and it's

been about 3 years or so. I know my mom is still getting over

the event, but I just can't handle the fact that she isn't handling

this, and that no one cared to come see how I was feeling.

I guess it helped me, because now any tragedy or pain life brings my way doesn't really seem to be such a big impact on my life, because it seems small compared to what I experienced. Also, during the "family" time, I learned how to get by things, and that helped me a lot too.

God also was a huge factor in my life, and a big helper. Whether you believe in him or not, it doesn't matter to me. But like you're asking, I just want to share what made who I am. Unlike you might've guessed, I didn't get close to God because of the tragedy in my family. I think a year after the family event, I became close to God because of God. At this church retreat of like 100 churches from about 3 surrounding states, we would have like 2 hours to pray. During that time, I had no passion for God at all, and I prayed dryly, that I would find a passion in God. While I was in the worship part of the retreat, I could suddenly plainly and simply "see" God, and I knew that he was real, and I knew, it was because of God that I now have a passion for him. He put me through so many bad things in life, but I see them as blessings, now looking back because after I endured them and went through them, my faith in God was that much more stronger, and slowly, as I experienced more and more pains and trials in life with God's guidance, any other pain in life seemed small, and I had such a "big" heart that I could easily let go of them, and I could help others because I've experienced their pains. Currently, I've lost my connection with God. It happened right after I felt I could never lose him. I knew it was another test to increase my faith in him, but it's been happening for months now, and I've almost given up. I just can't thank you enough for asking this quesiton, because my telling most of my life with God...it just reminded me of all the blessings he gave me in teh past, and I think I can turn back to God now, because I can remember all the good things that came out of him putting me through bad things.

Anyway, that's all I can tell you. To wrap up all that I said in one sentence, it's basically: "Life will bring you the worst pains imaginable, and shred your heart and emotions to bits. But if you learn to endure them and let go of them, it will let your heart grow so much more, and you now can let go of so much because other pains seem so small and insignificant. It also gives you the experience to help others with the same experiences, becuase you've been through the same thing. With God, every storm in your life seems to tear you apart, but with every gust of wind, it blows you closer to him. Life is going through pains, and coming out of them as a blossoming flower. It's simply...life"

ok...maybe that wasn't one setence, but it is the truth.

If you really can't let go of things...find that place in your mind that expands like a beach. Write you pains down on paper, put it in a bottle, and let it go out to the sea, where you can finally be free of that burden, as it fades out toward the setting sun.

Answer 2

dont feel cursed! sometimes many negative things happen to us, and its hard when these things happen early in life, often when we are not yet able to have control
but we live and learn, feel blessed to have survived , many dont, and stay determined to chart your own path in life, not forgetting what has happened, but incorporating it into who you are, it doesnt define you, but will always be a part of you, often the negative can help you have a better understanding of people and more compassion for others
no matter how bad things are, often you can realize that things are worse for others, use this if you have to , if you need help having hope
as for me, i grew up in a violent, abusive home, and was sexually abused as a child by family members, i went on as a teenager to lose a younger brother and sister in a house fire when i wasnt home, then i went threw a first marriage which damaged the little bit of self esteem i had
but i came threw it all, married again, had a beautiful daughter , and gained self esteem and a sense of self worth,

Answer 3

kylie in hear in this setting , its not easy to tell just who you are or what your life is like..
look we all face struggles and each of these may differ too. I may have financial diffivulties someone else may have marital problems . others may have fear related struggles weather or not they be real or imaginary. IN the bible it states their is no temptation or trials that come to us other than those common to mankind. .
each of us too are tested to see what we will endure n remain faithful.. trials dear have a way of making or breaking someone, some face or have gone through fiery ordeals and come away the better for it and others if they have the same struggle become bitter and depressed and strike out at GOD and everyone else around them/// romans 8 , v 39 is sooo kool i am persuaded that nothing can seeperate us from the love thats in christ jesus neither height nor depth ,, uread on yourself.. re-read all this chapter for in v 18 it also states that the sufferings that prevail s or comes upon us ,[ to make it easier to understand }, now are nothing compared to the glory THAT IS TO BE REVEALED TO US.. ,, WE ALL HAVE TO ENDURE HARDSHIPS ,,,FACT.. WE CAN DO SO ONLY AS WE REMAIN IN CHRIST, IF u be a christian u will have hope u will have help available to you too. it may not be as you think is needed but trust in the provisions the Saviour gives
,, ,, MJ