In January, I will be married 3yrs, we've always been sexually active. I try to please him which ever way possible. I even suggest different positions. I'm always caressing him, touching making him feel good. I discovered my husband loves porn. I had discovered sex web sites on my computer.. He likes to watch it secretely. It wasn't until the most recent time that he was confronted he admitted watching porno. He wasn't all truthful he omitted the sex chat room. I did ask my husband in the begining of the marriage if he liked porno. He said "NO", meanwhile, he acts all roly poly in front of other people. He prays 5x a day and preaches about his religion how perfect it is. What a big hipocrite. My fear is this behavior will lead from fanatsy to reality.
2007-11-22 06:41:54 · 11 answers · asked by doradogirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like your husband is a sex addict. It's worrisome that he does it in secret. Unfortunately all things done in the dark do come to the light. It is just a matter of time until it does go from fantasy to reality and possibly other types of undesirable behavior. If he cannot be honest with you how can he be honest in your relationship and what kind of relationship is built on deception and denial. Sex is a wonderful thing and it is not meant to be dirty or hurtful unless that it is your choice.
2007-11-22 07:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-18 18:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men do watch pornography, but probably not to the point that it has become a problem in a marriage, which is what it is for you. I'd be more concerned with what type he is watching, you never mentioned. As for the sex chat rooms, that could become a problem. If he is seeking out his fantasies in there, he may just act on them at some point.
Also sounds like he is in denial or just doesn't want you to know, he thinks you think he is weird or perverted and won't understand. Men are very visual creatures, so watching it is rather normal. But I'd suggest seeking counselling for both of you, could be more to it.
2007-11-22 06:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by noone 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Here are 3 secrets you should know to make your life easier that you haven't seemed to have learned:
1. There is no Santa
2. Life is not fair
3. All men cheat.
If your man is only watching porn count your blessings. I have never met a man that doesn't cheat so you if your man by some miracle does not cheat who gives a F what else he does. Amen.
2007-11-22 08:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your fears have been realized by many women in exactly your situation. Ask him to be the man of the family, resist temptation and seek out help for his addiction. Obviously you are not comfortable with the situation...it is not adding to your partnership.
As much as this situation plays on our insecurities as women, know that it is not a result of anything you haven't done. It is his addiction...help him as best you can!
2007-11-22 07:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Macy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porno+ chatroom + voyeurism = fetish.
He`s got unfulfilled fantasies, better find out what they are . Better to role play in the bedroom than enter into a high risk lifestyle, unless that`s what you want.
2007-11-22 06:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to your Pastor about his behavior. Yes he is being a major hipocrite and God knows it. He can pray all he wants but God knows he is not be true and he will pay the consequences. In God's eyes he has already commited adultry.
I don't blame you for being fearful. I would be too. Talk to the Lord and he will guide you.
2007-11-22 06:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by conny 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just remember that men are never perfect like they think they are. Tell him to honest and if he is going to pray 5 x per day, he better pray for forgiveness for his lying sins.
2007-11-22 06:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by tiny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is comfortably living in denial.
The bad news is you cannot make him see the light. That leaves you only with the choice of staying or leaving him.
Good luck.
2007-11-22 07:22:11 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put a block on the computer so he can't get into porn.
2007-11-22 10:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋