because i'm fed up of being quiet and shy and then people think they can walk all over me y do people do this ? and what can i do to change? thx xxx
2007-11-22 06:09:56 · 15 answers · asked by random.princess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i try to be confiedent and someone alwayz gets me down:(
2007-11-22 06:16:06 · update #1
It takes a conscious effort to change yourself. you have to think fast and speak up, stop biting your tongue and be the person you feel you are inside.
2007-11-22 06:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww bless u babe! i was so badly in the same position as you once so i'll tell you my secret.
You may not like this but the answer you are looking for is confidence. Shy people lack in confidence so are less likely to express their views, thus people try to take advantage of them and as you said, walk all over them. Its sooo hard to do just like that though. Confidence has to be built up, it cant be switched on and off. What I am saying is that it will take a bit of time, but you will be so much happier in the end. So my advice to you is:
- Do not be afraid to say what you feel.
- Relax when you are in conversation with people. Dont panic, just chill....XD
- Be yourself. Dont worry what others will think, they will respect you for it.
Hope i have been helpful, xxxx
2007-11-22 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i used to be well shy, i was exactly the same as you and wanted an answer to the same question
don't change anything about yourslef, just be you
i learnt that after a while theres no point in changing,
i dunno hw old you are but as you get older your confidence grows mounds!
people will respect you for the person you are,
your close friends and will know you're not really that quiet and there the ones that count
also another plus, loadss of boys seem to like shy girls they find then intreaguing apparently :P
and just learrn to say no to the idiots that try and walk over you
hope i helped.
2007-11-22 14:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by hannn ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy can syem from low self esteem. I have low self esteem and anxiety. My twin daughters have been taken into care as the way I am would effect them.. You have to be more confident in yourself.. Start to be a bit selfish then less people will walk all over you.. If people do hurt you, that's there fault not yours, bet your just too nice to people sometimes.. Just try and enjoy life to the full. xx
2007-11-22 14:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by ethel w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES... put on a front. people will take the piss. you have to reinvent yourself as a much tougher person learn to say NO and stand up for yourself. It took me years but it works trust me, there is always someone to take the piss. as soon as you get rid of 1 another will pop up. Be strong put up a confident front. people will change around you or move on to the next person they can take the piss out of but at least it won't be u
2007-11-22 17:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Charlie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a good web site I will give you that will help with your shyness and relationships as well that I often recommend to others. As you build up your confidence and self esteem you will attract those who admire you for that and not just try to take advantage of you. I hope this site helps you and I think it will. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-22 14:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is confident. Act like you are not afraid when you are around people. Be open in conversations and stand up for yourself when you think you're being walked on.
2007-11-22 14:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Uno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult question! well, I agree, self-confidence is the point you have to work on. Start by analysing people around you: are they really better than you? I guess not. Of course, there can be conversation topics in which they can express their ideas in a more clearer and incisive form, but maybe on other topics you are more prepared than them. Try to be very well informed on some specific topics (music, films, travels.. it depends on your interests), and try to start speaking about them. As you realise you can speak in group, you will feel more confident. So, little by little, you can start to speak about other topics, too.
2007-11-22 14:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe go for a new look,
a new hair colour maybe?
try to dare yourself to say things, as long as you dont over do it!
I used to be painfully shy, but now i can get on really well with both guys and girls. its great.
my secret was looking happy, it makes you more approachable
good luck !
x
2007-11-22 14:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lucybella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i use to be like that, and it just went away on its own, but only you can actually MAKE it go away, just start standing up for yourself and if people take advantage of you and walk all over you, maybe they are not ideal friends for you, just work on standing up for yourself, hope this helped, good luck:)
2007-11-22 14:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by million 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋