My man doesnt want to do husband wife things.Neither gay nor is there any other girl in picture.My man wont want intimacy even if i intiate it,no romantic holidays or doing things talking romantic with eachother,no gifts.My man works very busy in his career he works with my relative so theres no other girl or not gay.My man was same before marriage when we were dating.Whats wrong its 7years.
2007-11-22 04:55:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This man who has had to learn lifes lesson early in their life are bitter to a fault like they dont show or say or express their love.This man have a hard time their ego feeds on you coming to him not vice versa he feels nice.Keep getting through to him in the ways you have mentioned one day or the other he will put his guard down and respond to you bigtime.It might take 7years or 15years atleast consider yourself lucky that you got married and your husband works very hard does not cheat or is gay.
2007-11-22 05:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me -this is a very soul-destroying situation to be in. It may lead you to behaviour like drinking eating or shopping to excess, or to cheating - in desperation. It will eat your soul from the inside out until all that remains is a brittle shell. You will come to envy those with normal relationships, and hate yourself. This is not normal and it is not your fault. This is a very bad situation - and you should seriously consider breaking up. Get a lawyer and check your legal and financial position (quietly). Then issue an ultimatum that he goes for medical/psycotherapist help. Don't EVER let him blame you for this. And don't wait around. I promise you this will not get better on its own. Be prepared to divorce. Once he has no power over you, your life will have hope again.
2007-11-22 05:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Drudgesquad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I teach mine bf to be caring.. but is a lot of work...even now after 2 years I have issues with it.
Once he told me " that he doest not feel butterflies in his stomach.. you now like be in love... that he just care about me.. and that was the reason why he never gave me special gifts... is not that " they don't know.. or is not there personality... that man ... "even if it is hard to understand.. does not love you, or value anything you are...
With my ex husband was the same, he never wanted to go with me to family activitiess... he did not care about me.. was not way for him to go to b-day party... and not my family .. HIS FAMILY.... I end getting divorced.. you can hide your pain for a while.. but at the end you will find out you deserve something better.,.. do not waist your time.. your live is valuable.. you have only one.
Now with my bf we do golfing together.. play tennis with his father., also believe it or not we do fishing.. and this is amazing, because his father always told him that fishing is a men activity.. then my bf refuses to go without me... he says "he gets bored"
Today we will have THANKSGIVING in his father house, and I will bring my mom... GOOD LUCK
here is my email dragonbn76@hotmail.com
keep in touch.
2007-11-22 05:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he had this problem before you guys got married and you are just not complaining about it?
if he was like this before you got married its a little late to complain about it now.
it sounds like you were fine with it 7 years ago but i think the cycle of life might have changed you now 7 years later.
you now want these things you did not care this much about before but now you want them.
the only thing you can do is talk to him and let him know what you would like in the relationship and that it would make you happy.
best of luck
2007-11-22 05:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by n00b420@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep believing he isn't cheating. Here are three secrets so you will understand life a little better:
1. There is no Santa
2. Life is not fair
3. All men cheat.
If you are not happy find someone else and stop whining!!!
2007-11-22 08:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his libido is little and he doesnt desire sex as much as you want it. there is something going on with him be it mental, emotional, but whatever it is you are not doing it for him. his needs to seek some professional counseling to get to the bottom of whats going on. and more than likely when he does get to the bottom he will not want to be with you anymore but the good thing is you and him will no longer be in misery of each other. encourage him to seek some type of counseling be it a sex therapist, marriage, or phyco. GodBless
2007-11-22 05:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was this way before you married him there is nothing wrong with him. There is something wrong with you thinking you can change him. Sorry, he won't change and the only person on this planet that you can change is you.
2007-11-22 05:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has hidden issues things could have happen in younger years he needs to open up but want till hes ready just something you have to be patient with good luck
2007-11-22 05:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be attracted to you anymore. Did you gain weight? Do you nag? Do you keep the house clean? Do you cook?
2007-11-22 05:51:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kellaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten what you payed for>Places change people don't>Get a new model that has upgrades>
2007-11-22 05:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋