My sister is separating from her husband,and my mom invited him to have Thanksgiving at her house.My sister said she wanted to stay friends with him.She came over and yelled at mom how dare you invite him to dinner! so was my mom in the wrong for inviting him to her house.I can understand my sister being upset.But i also understand my mom wanting to be nice and inviting him,because she still likes him. I would appreciate any advice.
2007-11-22 04:35:41 · 13 answers · asked by Cinderella 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mom was acting with the best intentions but you know about the road to hell. she should have checked with your sister if it was OK with her all of you people that are crapping on the sister do not know why they are separating. this is why you check first with the sister. She may not have told her mother why the separation and it could infidelity you don't know so you armchair psychiatrists
should think about it little more than you obviously did before. Not everything about what happens in a marriage is told to the rest of the family.here could be something that makes the sister mad that we know nothing about
2007-11-22 05:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad, uncomfortable situation! You mom was not wrong. It is her house, and she is welcome to invite any person she wants into it. And I suspect she is simply trying to "not take sides" in this situation. That is noble of her, but will probably backfire, as the daughter expects mom's support in this difficult time. That being said, I have advice for you: Stay out of it!!!! This is between your mother and your sister, and if you start offering opinions or taking sides, all of the rage and frustration of the entire divorce will come shooting at you. You are neutral, you are not part of the divorce, the invitation, the home ownership, etc. You are simply coming because you love your mom and want to be part of her Thanksgiving celebration. Just keep repeating that: I love my mom and just want to be part of her Thanksgiving celebration. That's all.
2007-11-22 04:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by pastorswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she was wrong....it will make your sister uncomfortable if she is separating from her husband. It is nice your mom wants to include him and still likes him however, she should invite him over on his own some other time.
2007-11-22 04:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your Mother's home and she has every right to invite anyone she wants to any Holiday dinner she wants...and why is Sis getting her knickers in a knot over it? yeah he's a soon to be ex but if she truely wants to remain friends with him then
what's all the hoo-doo about?
Sis has the option of not coming...she does NOT have the right to dictate to Mom who she, your Mom, has in her home.
My advice to you? treat all of your Mom's guests with respect, honor the fact that it is you Mom's home, and ignore the bad behavior of your Sis....and stay out of it! It's between the two of them so keep your 2 cents outta it Hon or you'll hafta duck and run for cover lol Good Luck.
2007-11-22 04:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She was wrong, the least she should have done was to have asked your sister first before deciding whether to invite him.
2007-11-22 10:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect for your sister, your mother should of talked to her about this first. Things like this can get real ugly and cause hard feelings.
2007-11-22 04:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom should have talked to your sister first, and the two of them should have decided what to do together.
2007-11-22 05:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your sister shes being stupid ...a mother would never hurt her own child or chose someone else over her own flesh and blood ...what shes really trying to do is get your sister back together with her husband ...she didnt invite him coz she likes him she invited him coz she wants to make everything ok for your sister
2007-11-22 04:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by velma dinkley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I would have not invited either one. They will fight if they are both there or if one of them is there then they will complain about the other.
You can not uninvite people so you guys will just have to deal with what happens.
2007-11-22 04:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sister sounds like a whiny little biotch that needs to start acting like an adult.
2007-11-22 04:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋