If you fell out with a person, would it be wise to decide NEVER to speak to them again? cut them out?

Question

completely and ignore them?

Answer 1

Never say never.

xxR

Answer 2

If you do this, you've got to be totally sure that in 2 years' time you wont regret it and miss their friendship. the longer that passes without speaking at all, the less likely it is you will ever resolve your differences and be friends again.

I fell out with my best friend over 5 years ago when we shared a flat and I was so angry I cut her out of my life completely. A couple of years ago I really missed her and tried to get back in touch and she didnt want to know.

So be very very careful about completely cutting someone out in a moment of anger

Answer 3

Yes of course, what better way to show all of ones childhood learning's in one fell swoop ~ teach em a lesson eh! Punish em good n proper, make em really sorry and just hope s/he never becomes a Doctor you might need one day.

On the other hand, one could just simply 'grow up' and learn by sorting out the issues that lay between you both, or is that a leetle beet too difficult for you?

Sash.

Answer 4

Well, I had two misunderstanding with two people this year. They happen to be my close friends... One is from high school - after insulting her, she forgave me but needed the "space" from our friendship. I tried to open our communication but she never wanted that same closeness again. So I let her goso I realized it wasnt much a friendship after all with her for 13 years.

The other one - I had neglected her "needs" She was more of a high maintainance diva so I couldnt really stand her attitude anymore. We managed to resolve our differences but I decide to test whether she was telling the truth about her being a friend - she never bothered contacting me anymore (which was ok with me).

I learned to move on with my life. Life is too short to be bothered by people who wont value you as a real person. There are far people who will love and appreciate you more in life.

Answer 5

Like other folk have said it depends on why you fell out in the first place & if both of you value the friendship enough to talk it thro' if not then say goodbye & move on..Lifes too short to dwell on might have beens..& its a wide world.

Answer 6

Hmmm .. Well i dont think you should never speak to them again.. ask them if you can talk to them in private and try and talk to them to try and resolve the problem. Then you should make up and forget it happened.

You cant change the past but you can sort out how to have your future.

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i am very sorry to here about this fall out and i hope you resolve it soon. X

Answer 7

Well how would you feel if the tables were turned and someone cut you forever after an argument? Life is too short you don't have to be best buddies but forever is a long time

Answer 8

never say never i have fallen out with few people, some times its been costly from a business point off view recently i had a client who had a lot of contacts i did not recognise there name . i was e- mailing them and got allot of business of them, we met up at a clients meeting and it was some one who i had fallen out with for personnel reasons, we are now in contact and go out , outside work we have mentioned our differences and ye it was a bit tricky at first but we laff about it now , so from my experience it would not be wise. always leave your options open, except if they have done something to physically hurt you or a member of your family then that would be different.

Answer 9

It would have to be a very very good reason to completely cut someone out.
I find that it is sometimes good to give people a second chance, that way they may value your friendship more. But if you have already given them many chances, that is a different story...

Answer 10

you really shouldn't fall out with a good friend and stop talking to them unless
1) they did something major like try to kill you/family member or
2) they are a bad influence on you (they steal, lie, etc. in a regular pattern).
try to work out the problem if it's less serious than the ones listed above.

Answer 11

depends what for? I have and not regretted it but thats just me. I have a theory that you never use the same piece of toilet paper twice. If thats how you feel about that person then that is your right to flush them out of your life!