My dad won't listen and its bothering me!?

Question

My dads job is very dangerous. He isn't a construction worker or anything like that, but its still really dangerous. I told him he needs to quit and find a job that is safer and he wont. It bothers me to know that when he leaves every morning, he is putting himself in danger for a little money. How do I ge him to find another job?

I meant get, not ge.

Answer 1

Um... well first, you could tell us what kind of job he has? So we no if it's dangerous.

Also it's his choice. Is he happy with his job and the amount he gets payed? If not, maybe you should talk to him about it.

Despite all the dangerous and myths out there in the world, we go on in life. We don't just turn away. Maybe your dad does the same. You can tell him how you feel, but I doubt it will make a difference. Just relax, he has a small chance of being killed or seriously injured in his "job."

Answer 2

I do constrction myself. I enjoy most of it. It pay's enough to pay the bill's and not have to go totally without thing's. This epecially the kids. Also most companies have good insurance, which is priceless ( my son had to go to the mayo clinic at 6 mths old for testing to find out what was wrong with him. The bill was $460,000, being it was for medical raise's they payed the $1500 airfare as well. ) $22 per hr. how would have i ever payed that? But beacuse my job i had the insurance to take care of my son, he's now 18, the bill's prolly in the millions.
Theres only one thing that makes one wonder why they'll go do it,( yeah, it's very dangeriuos. I have seen accident's and one man fall 16 floor's) That one thing that can make you wonder is when your kids do not listen or respect you or think of just how far ya good so they can flip a switch and have light's, water, air conditioning n heat. or they run up the phone bill. Wasn't for having to pay all the everyday thing's i could have retired after 20 yr's, and not have to go putmy life on the line daily.
Your father is a lucky man. That you realize what he does. most kid's don't care i Have 2 one sorta like you my son. the other is a self uncaring sort. Doesn't listen sneak's out at night smoke's cig's an drug's drink's beer, trouble with the police. think's she's gods gift to the world. She really makes me wonder why i get up and go to work. My wife and son always hapy to see me come home. My daughter could careless, but i have to considered shes only 15 yr's old and going through all the teenage girl change's. My wife would like ta ship her off. But she's mine and i love her so i have ta put up with it best i can.
Best thing i can tell you to do is always treat your dad good, kiss him when he leaves for work and hug him when he comes in. That make his day no matter how ruff it may ahve been. and because something just may happen. ( and it doesn't have to be at work. car accident's have killed more my work buddies than on the job accident's.) Don't tell him to becareful,( that drives me nutz. lol.) because i have too be i have a family first and formost, second having and accident hurt's. Keep the bills down, he'll have more money to save and also time to spend with his family and not be at work.
i could go on and on. but hope this much helps you better understand. Why he does it. beside's i couldn't stand a job inside, or the job to be the same everyday, and outside of office work all jobs are dangeriuos

Answer 3

It may be that what your dad is doing is important to his self image. It doesn't just feed and cloth his family but fulfills him in ways that other jobs would not. However, you need to express to him not that he needs another job (he won't listen to that) but that you are afraid of him getting hurt.

My dad was a fire fighter - forest fires. He would leave every summer for months at a time and come back telling tales about logs rolling down hills, having to drive his vehicle through a burning field and praying that the tank didn't blow. I was never afraid as he also made sure we understood what he did to remain safe, in fact he was the safest fire boss out there with almost no injuries to his crew (what injuries there were came from the crews time-off rowdiness.) Dad had one of the scariest jobs, well - he didn't go crab fishing in Alaska (the highest mortality rate out there, after that is fishing, then farming and logging), but still he dealt with scary stuff.

And you know what? If that fire fighting was taken away from him it would have been a huge blow to his masculinity. I'd rather have my dad as he is then a defeated man. Trust me, when you grow up will understand that. I still think of my dad as being invincible when it comes to fires.

Answer 4

You don`t.
Your dad knows that when his time comes, it will not matter what his job is. People get run over by cars, fall, have heart attacks, etc and even if he was a work from home dad, who is to say that something would not happen and he would be seriously hurt or die in a fire.
You must put your dad`s life into the Lord`s
hands. Do you think God doesn`t know how you feel? God doesn`t want you to
worry. Have faith and trust that God knows
what is going on and will not let anything happen that is not in His will.

Answer 5

You don't. You're a child and apparently the danger and the payoff are worth it for your father. Be supportive of his decision and stop hounding him about his career choice.

Did it ever dawn on you that this job is rewarding for your father in more ways than being able to provide a decent life for you? He is a person too who deserves to be happy...I'm willing to bet he had this job long before you came along so why try to take it from him?

Answer 6

I can see what you mean, your dads job is increasing his chances of getting hurt or getting killed, just tell him you are afraid of losing him and that if he got a safer job you might not lose him as soon.

Answer 7

well, hes an adult. you cant really get him to do anything. maybe he likes his job, regardless of the danger. heck, maybe he likes the feeling of being in a dangerous situation.

all you can really do is tell him how you feel about his job, and accept whatever he decides to do.

Answer 8

Leave him alone.....He could have a job at McDonalds and still get killed in a car wreck on the way there..

Answer 9

u cant tell ur dad to quit his job do u have any idea how hard it is to find a job now days?

Answer 10

Well alot of people have dangerous jobs but someones got to do it.Maybe he enjoys his job,and you shouldn't complain if he is supporting you.