I am a 25 year-old virgin and no girl has ever liked me. Whenever girls see me, they run/drive away from me as fast as possible, and therefore I have zero confidence in myself. Since my face resembles my mother’s, I make her feel bad about herself by telling her how girls react to me and placing the blame on her (and on my father). This has taken its toll on her and I simply don’t care. Over the years, my mother’s mental health has deteriorated. She has been hospitalized several times, talks to herself, has become reclusive, and cries a lot. My father hasn’t let it get to him, though I make sure he knows that it’s partially HIS fault that no girl has or will ever be interested in someone as hideously ugly as me. Now, I am sure a lot of you will say I am being cruel, but you haven’t walked through life with MY face, that I have absolutely NO control over. All these other guys, even guys ten years younger than me, are enjoying what I have been missing out on all my life.
2007-11-22 03:58:29 · 20 answers · asked by gone 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My mother CHOSE to marry and have kids with my father, whereas I have never had any control over anything. I did not ask to be put here on the earth with this repulsive face that makes girls hurry away from me. If you were in my shoes, and had no control over anything, I am sure you would react the same way.
2007-11-22 03:58:37 · update #1
Also, I am not NEARLY as cruel towards my mother as girls are towards ME when they see me.
2007-11-22 04:00:38 · update #2
"and men are WAY picker than women about how their partner looks"
That is a myth. Men won't RUN FOR COVER when they see an unattractive member of the opposite sex like females do.
2007-11-22 04:06:01 · update #3
How the HELL can I develop confidence when it is SHATTERED every time I see the HATEFUL reactions of girls when they see me?
2007-11-22 04:21:49 · update #4
If I were you, I would shut up, man up, grow a pair, and smile like I had something to prove. Chloraform would be my best friend. You're not that ugly. I've seen you. And don't blame your mom, just treat her badly. I think that covers it.
2007-11-25 06:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, stop what you are doing to your mother! IT may feel good now, but not everyone can live forever. If your mom dies, all you will be able to think about is all the mean things that you said to her. You will never forgive yourself. It will eat away at the rest of your life....
It seems as though the real ugly part of you is your attitude. I know in your details you said "How the hell am I supposed to have a good attitude-blah, blah, blah," but it's really not that hard. However, on your other question, your extended details were correct. Girls are pickier about how their boyfriends look than guys are. I don't understand why you would have to miss out on anything other than dating. I mean, it is still legal to go to the movies alone, no matter how ugly you are. You mentioned your mother has been problems with her mental health. Your critisism about your life to her could be making it worse, no matter how unlikely it seems.
If anything is ugly about you, it is your cruelty.
2007-11-24 16:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by thetiger1413 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would try to make the best of what I have and get as much confidence worked up as I can. Women really like confident men. People that feel sorry for themselves are too depressing to stand for most people. I would apologize to your mom if I were you. She deserves a load of thanks for all she's done through the years. The better she feels about herself, the nicer and more supportive she'll be. You're making this woman your enemy and she may end up dying an early death because she's lost the will to live. Love is a great motivator. Ask yourself if you are worthy of love. Hang out with blind people if that makes you feel better. Read Cyrano de Bergerac or Watch Steve Martin's movie where he falls for Daryl Hannah. Today is a new day. Yesterday is gone. Now be a better son so you can like yourself more and make her happy! Also watch To Kill a Mockingbird together.
2007-11-22 12:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not right to blame your mother for your looks. Maybe its not your looks but the way you carry yourself. If you believe you are so terrible looking and look down on yourself then you will act that way. Your facial expressions and body language will make you look as though you don't care about yourself or want anyone else to care about you. Don't look so much at what you are outside. What can you offer a girl? Are you giving, loving, kind? No woman will ever see those qualities if you don't first show that you love yourself. Most women go by looks and then personality but we cant resist a strong confident man no matter what he looks like.
2007-11-22 12:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by 2h@n@ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question NO!
Ive known some disfigured people in my time but you take the cake! No you didn't ask to be brought into this world, and your parents didn't intend for you to turn out the way you have.
What you are doing to them, is far more uglier than what you feel they have done to you. Instead of focusing on ruining their lives. Maybe you should focus on improving your mental obsession to make their life hell. Move on, get a grip on your situation. You can't be loved unless you know how to love......
I hope you can change your outlook.
I wish you well.......
2007-11-22 12:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by ifixit54 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
o__________________o!!!!! Just THINKING about how ugly you are........ughhhhh....-RUNS- jk jk, please, read on!
Hahaha joking, im hyper, anywho get a rope, tie it around some cutie and ask her why she don't like you. When she replies "you are a fugly guy!" just kiss her, gently, and just MAYBE..she will look BEYOND your looks...its possible, I have loved numerous of guys who don't have the best looks..but the personality means the most to me =D
Or, look for somebody who does not have the hottest looks as yourself, and y'all can have twins and name them afta me =D casa and cassie =D if it a boy then w/e!!!!
Just, come on, be confident, if you want, go to a chat room and find a girl on it who is looking for a guy your age and start talking to her, surely she will not ask you for your picture for a while.
Tons of females fall for guys they don't know or have not seen their pictures online, find a girl, get to know her, make sure she loves the personality WAY MORE then the looks, and show her your best picture.
Another suggestion is, my friend, PLASTIC SURGERY! =D I want to be a plastic surgeon/author when I get older so yah.....save up some money and do that, it may take a while but just keep working hard and it WILL pay off.
Peace outa brother from another mother! [in gods way]
2007-11-23 12:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by cassieknows77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you rent the old VHS of Cher in....Elephant Boy or Mask or something like that. Due to her drug abuse; she bore a horrid looking lad. But, he had a good heart and was likeable and she demonstrated her love to him, all his life. A very touching story.
May I suggest that the girls run, in part, because of the physical; but, in larger measure, to the 'vibes' of girl / woman hatred that pour off of you (and THAT IS YOUR FAULT).
If your cruelty to dear old mom is fully rationalized as "her just punishment for being a woman, marrying and having a hate filled lad" ; then, it must make you sleep better at night. However, I think the way you have treated her is reprehensible and nasty.
2007-11-22 15:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bill S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugly is in the eye of the beholder. Do you have two eyes, a nose, a mouth, eyebrows, etc.
I think the reason the girls run from you is not your genetically inherited physical features, but the "ugly" personality that you choose to let others experience.
Smile! Makes even an "ugly" person beautiful!
2007-11-22 12:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by peggy m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to the first answer lol i have seen someone who looks like a feragi also looks are not that important i have seen some petty ugly guys with good looking girls also i see people that are ugly and do not let it bother(and do well in life) them i have alot of respect for that i understand the hate for your mom i had problems with my mom when i was growing up and it did make me feel a hate for all woman in time it fades and you forgive
2007-11-22 12:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's not your mom's fault...hey, she looks like you and still managed to get married...and men are WAY picker than women about how their partner looks!! I think your biggest problem is your attitude...do you really think people want to hang out with, let alone date someone who is so negative and down on himself? Just try and look your best, keep your hair cut as nice as possible, dress as nice as possible, and be as nice as possible and I think you will be surprised at people's reaction to you.
2007-11-22 12:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋