My Fiance's ex-wife insists on staying at the house to visit the children when she's in town. She wants to visit the children and stay/sleep at the house if visiting for more than 1 day. I believe she should be able to visit her children, how would you react to her staying/sleeping at the house?
2007-11-22 03:41:15 · 28 answers · asked by Lady D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not!
2007-11-22 03:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Under the Sea 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mother of your stepchildren to be needs her "own" time with the children. Perhaps it could be considered that they go to where she resides to visit, or if she is "in town" then she is trying to mooch a place to stay or just cause problems. I have seen stranger situations than this but the x-spouses got along well and respected each others boundaries and own lives. Whatever the reason......she should create her own privacy with the children somewhere else.
2007-11-22 03:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by laurel2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know what people are going to ay about this BUT here it goes. That all depends on YOU and if you feel comfortable with it. I am sure you are not so then answer is NO. I myself have to travel from Seattle to Virginia to see my kids and I stay at a hotel and rent a car. It cost alot but I am lucky to have the income to be able to do this but not often a I would like. However, IF for some reason she does stay there even if you tell your hubby you dont wish for her to stay. make sure her room is close to yours try haivng some wild passionate VERY VERBAL sex that she can hear. I know I am a sick pervert but hey what EX would want to hear you say something like. " YEH BABY GIVE IT TO ME HARD f ME HARD YOU NAUGHTY BOY" lol she hears that she might get a hotel.good luck
2007-11-22 04:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my BF's X.
I think she is playing head games, as so many X wives will do. There's probably some "sizing up" and "snooping" going on too. She wants to see what goes on in YOUR household that will put her in a "position of power" so to speak.
Do you want her involved in your household?
Does your BF want her involved in your household?
Your right- she should be able to see the children...but she needs to make her own arrangements to see them.
It's not your or your fiance's responsibility to arrange accomodations for her. She's a big girl.
Set some boundaries now---- otherwise she will forever be interfering in your home.
Boundaries are healthy and a way to protect yourself from any future manipulations.
Good luck!
2007-11-22 05:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kaybee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general, it is not a good idea, but there are always exceptions and I think it depends on the relationships of everyone involved. My daughter has her father and her step father, both are now my ex's. Her real father could stay over any time, he's a great guy. Her stepfather not welcome at all to visit her at my home
2007-11-22 04:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very bad idea. The ex should be told that she can come visit but can't stay over night.
2007-11-22 03:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about him double-dipping?
Are the issues that caused the divorce still a significant barrier to intimacy in their relationship?
How about her wanting to "get back together"?
In the kids' minds who is mom? The new girl, or the old?
To me, this sounds highly problematic. Split the cost of a room at motel 6, you and your man pay half, and she pays half. If your man cant be 100% on board with this now, how much on board is he going to be after the wedding?
2007-11-22 03:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely not necessary. Why can't she get a hotel room or stay with friends? When my parents come to visit, they stay in a hotel and have the kids spend one night with them. The kids LOVE it! They get to swim in the pool, have breakfast in the hotel and hang out with Grandma and Grandpa all night without any parental interference.
2007-11-22 03:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
insist?? she can insist all she wants but that is inappropriate. get herself a hotel room. you nor your fiance are responsible for her housing. ugh! hell no. she can visit,. but she is a grown woman and needs to find her own accomodation. even if it means dropping her kids off at your home at the end of her day and picking them up first thing in the morinig all over again.
2007-11-22 05:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly if he grew to become into along with his ex spouse earlier he meet you and now that he's with you, she perchance jealous of you and his relationship and could attempt or say something to get him back. additionally even with the undeniable fact that if she is pregnant likely they have slept mutually some adult men might help understand they no longer nonetheless in contact with their exes, yet whilst the toddler do become his new child, are you keen to nonetheless be there along with your guy understanding that he has a new child out of wed lock? If no longer then you certainly ought to might desire to think of a pair of divorce simply by fact it heavily isn't simple being married to a guy who has infants with yet another woman. he would be going to circulate to the toddler and each from time to time you certainly ought to ask your self did they do something mutually or what, and 9 out of ten he no longer gonna take you with him to be sure his toddler, so are you waiting for this?
2016-09-30 00:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by swendsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get her a hotel room and have the kids visit her. If she says no, talk with your fiance's divorce lawyer I'm sure they can work out something!
2007-11-22 03:49:58 · answer #11 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋