im getting sick over this. i dont understand how this could have happened :( i delt with the situation perfectly and he just blows me off. my dads friends son who is this guy i work with and i have been flirting for the past 3 months. he would always give me hugs all the time, and one time after work he asked me if i had a boyfriend and what do i look for in a guy. he also told me that he has been single for a year because in his past relationship his girl cheated on him. anyways i know for a fact that he was interested in me and i fell for him hard. so one day we were talking on msn and i asked him when he wants to chill cuz he would always say i should come visit him sometime and he said "i have to see when im available" i was like okay. also before i asked him if he was talking to anyonemeaning if he is dating anyone and he said no. then 2 weeks later we have this conversation on msn:
2007-11-22 02:49:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
me-wat u doing friday
him- im going shopping in new york
me- thats too bad i was gonna tell u im free fri
him- lol so how are the boys treating u? have you found that special one yet
me- no have u?
him- ye im kind of talking to someone right now
me- really who
him- lol u wouldnot know her
me- I don’t understand u
him- I mean u don’t know her so if I tell u her name it is pointless
me- noo not that, nvm
him- what then tell me
me- lol u play games
him- I don’t play games. I didn’t lead u on, cuz if I did I would have kissed you up and stuff but I didn’t. we didn’t talk on the phone everyday, we didn’t even chill outside of work. I didn’t lead u on, sure we flirted here and there but it was all verbal, nothing physical.
Me- ok true but u did other things to make me think otherwise
Him- all I did was give u hugs and asked you questions to get to know u…
Then he goes offline.
Please give me advice on what to do now. What do u think about this whole thing?
2007-11-22 02:49:57 · update #1
This is all gay stuff. Maybe that other man was having fun playing with your gay feelings, it wasn't nice but he's just not into you....
2007-11-25 15:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thought he wanted a relationship with you so flirted and came on to you. Then when it looked like it was actually going to be real, he got cold feet and realized he did not want one after all. Just forget the guy, he obviously does not want to make any kind of commitment. Also what he told you about his past relationship and his girl cheating on him is only his version, you have no way of knowing whether it is true, or if he is even single or available. I think he was just playing games.
2007-11-22 11:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by William 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds alot like me which was pretty scary until it became different...
Basically either his feelings have changed or he just was being very friendly to you...I have had "mixed" feelings to girls thinking they were leading me on when they just were being nice to me and all that...
Or perhaps something has happened to suddenly change his mind on you??
Wrong section but I ain't gonna go beserk over it, try talking low and normal with him when you get the chance...and then just pop in "what happened then before?" and see how he answers!
The way I see it he has his thoughts on someone else and sees you as a friend sorry to say it but he has his priorities on this girl...also by reading the convo I too thought and still do that you asked who the girl was and then say that you didn't mean it...perhaps he was centered around the other girl and didn't like you getting nosey??
If he answers hostile or aggresive then just let him know that he is and if he opens up then make sure you listen...he sounds alot like me in a way which scares me lol!
Good luck!
2007-11-22 11:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Luca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think personally that he was leading you on because he did like you, but then somehow got over you and likes someone else. Perfectly normal for guys...but heartbreaking for us girls. = (
2007-11-22 12:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by Katelynn *WelcomeTo TheJungle* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you made up this fantasy in your head and its not his fault its your fault and women tend to do this alot, say what you mean and mean what you say its really quite simple and you wont set yourself up for heartache. Good Luck!
2007-11-22 11:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Doctor feel good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what exactly does this have to do with Men's Health?
2007-11-22 10:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by iraq51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up!
2007-11-22 13:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Honorable D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋