Hi all ! I am 56 my wife is only 37 (lucky me lol) I am bi-sexual. wife is ok with it, should i "come out"

Question

We are totally devoted to each other, and my good lady accepts the way I am, we do mmf from time to time,so I may enjoy some male fun etc. What is the best way forward, any suggestions gratefully accepted.

tks

Phil

Answer 1

I agree with Thisisme, come out to whom? Your wife knows. Obviously, other men know? So, why tell your family at this point in your life? If they don't already sense it, they would probably be judgemental, and you don't need that at this time in your life.It is between your wife and you.Happy Thanksgiving!

Answer 2

This is impossible to answer unless you are willing to say what your goals are in "coming out."

Are you seeking acceptance of your bisexuality by your family and your community? It will be difficult for most communities to hear about a married couple that is open about their polyamory. You know your family and the chances of gaining acceptance among them.

Are you seeking to gain more partners? There are plenty of places to find them on the web.

Are you trying to learn more about yourself and perhaps have sexual encounters without your wife? If you've had "MMF" encounters, then you know how to do that. If you are considering separation from your wife so you can devote more time to being exclusively gay, then that's a life changing event, and you may want to talk to a support group or a supportive therapist.

I hope that your conversations with your wife have been more specific than your question here. If not, you may have different opinions about what the two of you have "agreed" to. I suggest you be very specific:
Are outside relationships OK (not just 3-ways)?
Should each episode be disclosed or kept secret?
Should the encounters meet safer sex guidelines and are there plans for STD check-ups?
Is it alright for both parties to seek sexual partners outside the relationship, or only for one partner?
Are repeated (i.e., longer-term) sexual relationships outside the marriage allowed, or only " one-night stands?"
Are there provisions for calling a halt to external relationships when they threaten the marriage?

Answer 3

No need to "come out" as it seems your wife has accepted it.

Does she get to have fun with the m in the mmf too?

If so can i join in......

Answer 4

well ur wife accepts it so you dont need to "come out" to anyone.

if you want to move things to another level try some toys maybe a strap on for her?

or you could try some kind of social scene together often there are masturbation groups where men and women can gather to masturbate or engage in other activities?

check out Y!groups

Answer 5

you could either carry on as you are in secret, but if your wife is happy for you to come out, i suggest telling your best friends and family first as they are the ones that will give you the support. as in most cases of coming out you will inevitably come across some homophobic people who will probably be quite nasty. you need to be prepared for this. good luck in what you decide to do.

Answer 6

you should ocme out of the closet>>..
the truth will indeed set you free and you will feel better with yourself
but i don't know howw she will take it though but its way better you come out of the closet than let it builda barrier between you in later years

Answer 7

Come out to whom?

Answer 8

You just did!

Answer 9

isnt ur wife too young for u?

Answer 10

you ALREADY came out...

and what is "mmf"???