This is inspired by an answer a woman gave to another question recounting disappointment finding that a young man she described as "bright, thoughtful, and physically beautiful" was incompatible with her in the size of his genitlia. (Presumably, from her other comments, he was too small for her.)
She remarked that, "it does kinda suck that women have to commit to sex to find out."
Is this unfair? Is there a way to correct such unfairness? Should such women ask? Can a woman not "back out"? If a woman feels somehow pressured into not backing out when she wants to, does she feel violated?
2007-11-22 02:10:44 · 9 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Super, I think it is a legitimate question. I mean, for some it doesn't matter. Apparently, for some it does. And I certainly don't like the idea of people feeling like they have to have sex when they don't want too, so this raises some tricky issues.
2007-11-22 02:56:23 · update #1
Rebel, I just assume women get really clingy after sex. That assumption has never failed me so far. Not that I would generalize it to all women, but it seems a safe bet in my experience.
2007-11-22 02:58:20 · update #2
Mr. diddy, i'm sorry if you felt my prior response was crass but it was honest. in truth it was only my second sexual encounter, i did not yet know of my own preferences and certainly did not "dump" him based on that criteria. if you recall, i did say i loved him and spent more than a year getting to know him so it was not a relationship i wanted to lose. further, do you not think it would be devastating to a young gentleman to have a woman say you are just too small? that to me seems cruel.
men can look at a woman i think and largely know if an encounter will be satisfying. breast size, hip to waist ratio and so forth are all preferences determined by the individual male and are obvious to the eye, where as a mans penis is not publicly displayed. the old hand size thing, a myth.
my first experience was with a young man whose genitalia was so large we were unable to consummate our relationship. so i have seen both sides of the coin. in conclusion i completely agree, all things are relative.
2007-11-22 11:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh*
To be honest, there are a lot of things that people ought to be able to find out about the other person before the first time they get naked together. But, once you get that far, even if you wanted to turn back, it's difficult.
Penis size is definitely not the only one of these things. Many of them are psychological/emotional things. For example, before a man has sex with a woman, he should have a right to know that she gets really clingy after sex. That would be a really handy thing to know.
Anyway, if our society didn't make people wear clothing and if we were all more open with each other about our individual quirks, then none of this would be an issue. But none of that will ever happen.
In regards to the penis size issue, for women who really care about a man's penis size, I don't know what to tell them.
2007-11-22 10:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Funny - I made the comment to my wife after reading that response. How sad that she feels she has to "commit to sex" to find out. Whatever happened to asking? If she's comfortable enough with him to have sex, why isn't she comfortable enough to say "no"? If she didn't want sex after all, but went through with it anyway because she didn't tell him, doesn't that mean that she was the instrument of her own violation?
It's ALWAYS a woman's - or man's - prerogative to back out of a sexual encounter...at ANY time.
PS: Interestingly, size is where women have an advantage. They can see how big we are. We have no idea of their size until we have sex, and then only as a comparison to our own size. Is a guy really too small, or is the girl too big? Maybe she's too wide, and he's not too narrow after all. It all depends on your perspective.
2007-11-22 13:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's really stupid, and a tragic waste to be dumping a smart, intelligent, good I.Q. level acceptable good looking guy just because his size was too small!
That doesn't make a guy less human than a guy with a large size.
If women are putting so much value in the size of a guy's equipment then no wonder she isn't lucky enough to find the perfect guy.
2007-11-22 12:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly? I don't give a rats butt on the size of a man's penis. I'm not looking at the man's penis to set the tone for a relationship, I'm looking at his over all package and his penis isn't what I look for. It's just attached to the man.
I've been there, done that, and after I've had it, I don't care what size it is. I'm just interested in the man himself. After all, penis' don't talk and I can't have a relationship with a penis, maybe sexually, but mentally? NO. And I don't have to commit to sex to find out. I accept what he has with no, ifs, ands or buts.
2007-11-22 20:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Smahteepanties 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh for heaven's sake!!!! Enough already!
No, it isn't unfair. And it isn't that big a deal to us unless the man is abnormally or freakishly small.
GNU: Enough already, because it is the third question on the front page from you in which penis size is discussed. And another chimed in with another question about the same subject. Did someone declare Thursday 'Penis Day' or something??????
2007-11-22 10:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Size doesnt matter, if you dont care about the woman.
2007-11-22 12:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by ByTheWay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right not all women think the same; nor is it correct to assume that all women think the same.
2007-11-22 21:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs a smaller vagina?
2007-11-22 10:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by michinoku2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋