well essentially im married to an east indian and like all east indian men he believes that men are the boss and women are just arnd to cook food and make babies. I would like to wear the pants in my relationship and a friend of mine suggested that if i turned the tables and i made him feel like a woman i could possibly change his mindset. Since he is east indian he isnt a very big guy and i can generally easily overpower him so when i want to i can make things work my way in the bedroom. I actually wanted to know from any women who have done this, whether it phsycologically affects a guy in a way that he will eventually become more subserviant to you. I want him to humiliate him so he will no longer think of me as the submissive partner who just allows him to act like a chauvanistic man. any suggetions on what i should make him wear and what i should say to him would be appriciated. i was thinking of putting him in a sari since it is the traditional dress for women in his country
2007-11-22 01:22:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
right on girl, those others can shut up, make him wear a jock strap haha, when he's an asshole belt his ***!
2007-11-22 11:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by spinningjenny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As I read your post, The words " make him" seem all wrong. You need his consent to "make him". Otherwise, it is an act of violence. Have the two of you discussed strap-on sex? Does he find the idea of humiliation hot? If so, go for it.
In the meantime, maybe start by exploring a little prostrate massage with him. If he has never experienced that before, and is consenting, it could be a pleasant beginning to his journey as a submissive.
2007-11-22 02:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by le_geek_cest_chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have known BEFORE you got married what he was like. If you didn't, you were not paying attention, and that is your fault. Don't humiliate him unless it is something you know he will enjoy, which it sounds like he won't. Do not try to change him, just get a divorce, or better yet, try TALKING with him. TELL him how you feel, that you are not like many of the women in India, and you are not to be ruled.
TALK TO HIM. That is what couples do, they TALK about their problems. If you married him, you obviously love him. Trying to humiliate and change him will only make him resent you. I hate it when people do this. Get with some one, marry them, then try to change them... Work it out like a decent human being.
2007-11-22 05:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ayana 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Let him know how it makes you feel to be treated in this way. Whilst it is a nice idea to let him be humiliated, it might backfire.
It would be nice to convince him that you are worth more than a simple baby factory, but he will never fully understand these things. Men just don't think the same as women do.
2007-11-22 02:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by Post Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have thought about this BEFORE you got married. Humiliation, denying sex...real mature way to treat your spouse. You knew he was from a different culture when you decided to get married.
2007-11-22 03:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all if you need to change anything about him ur in the wrong relationship. if he is a chauvanist pig ... its called a divorce take the house and the car to teach him a lesson.
"dont get even get everythink darlink"
2007-11-22 02:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Micheal Jones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really domineering in that way you'll probably succeed in pushing him away.
Far, far away.
If his mind is already set you can't change that with some people, and unless he's expressed the curiosity to encounter cross-dressing, role reversing, or takin it up the @ss, he'll probably run screaming for his life. ;P
2007-11-22 01:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's been said that you should never use sex as a weapon in any relationship. Sounds to me like you want a pet and not a man. Just curious...you like to wear leather undergarments don't ya?
2007-11-22 01:28:48 · answer #8 · answered by ms_beehayven 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Why do women marry then want to change their man?
2007-11-22 01:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by nosillenhoj 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Make him scrub the floors, cook, do the laundry and clean the toilet for a couple of weeks.......that should do it.
2007-11-22 01:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋