fall in love with your mistress? Do you have full control over your emotions to prevent such complications and keep things simple? If you did start to develop feelings would you end the affair or just go with the feelings?
2007-11-22 00:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by Liteson 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, never fallen in love with a Mistress. I have to control.
If I had the feeling I would divorce my wife & go with my Mistress, sounds fun to me.
2007-11-22 06:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end the affair because I deal with reality and I know that if I end it wife my wife I will now look forward to the same miserable progression when the mistress now turns in to the new wife and the same misery will happen all over again. However now you have 2 constant headaches instead of just one.
2007-11-22 09:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are emotions, they happen whether we want them to or not. The only real choice, is whether or not we choose to admit to them...to ourselves, or to others.
That said, even if a person falls in love with another, they still retain the choice over what they do with that situation. In the largest majority of situations, a man does not leave his wife for a mistress, whether he is in love with her or not. Even if he does fall in love with the girl on the side, that doesn't mean he no longer loves or cares for his wife. The motivations for cheating are many and complex.
2007-11-22 08:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman who was " the other woman" (way back in college when I was selfish ) I can tell you right now that the guy is infactuated with the mistress, places her on a pedestal and anything he envisions lacking in his wife is all in the mistress (it's really not, but he plays it up). It's infactuation but not ever love or anything so intimate. That person is incapable of love or else he would't do that to his wife.
2007-11-22 08:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i know you would prefer an answer fr husbands themselves. But if a guy does not have the balls to tell his wife he is not in love with her anymore, then he might still love her or not want to leave for financial reasons. Speaking fr experience, you probably don't want to get mixed up with a man who is having an affair because as Jennifer Aniston put it, "he's missing a sensitivity chip". It just doubles the chances that down the line, he'll hurt you too. Plus, you or whomever the other woman is, will have to suffer the bad karma. Save yourself before you develop any further attachment.
2007-11-22 08:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by just asking 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You've got to understand that love is a very unique thing that is deifferent to every person. A man could leav his wife for his mistress, leave his mistress for his wife or even leave all togeather or keep both a secret.
2007-11-22 08:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by The Big B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is all about the cheator not the cheatee. And I'll second the person who says it's falling in lust. I have cheated in the past (pre-marriage) and it was about me "feeling good" because two women wanted me. (For those who are curious, I didn't marry either girl.)
You won't love everything your wife ever does, sometimes she'll annoy you, you'll fight, she might "let herself go" ('course guys do that too) but REAL love is a decision you make...DAILY.
2007-11-22 09:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Greg R (2015 still jammin') 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon the reason for the affair and what the situation between the spouses is.
2007-11-22 11:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never cheated on a gf/ wife, but I know tons of women who claim to HATE men who cheat and at the same time date married men. Is that hypocrisy or what??
2007-11-22 08:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Feeling new @ 42 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I never mix up business with my pleasure and there aren't ever any complications of that sort.
2007-11-22 09:01:42 · answer #10 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋