My wife of 1 year and I had a party to show off the house we just purchased. About 20 people were there and drinks for flowing. I'm not much of a drinker but my wife kept making me do shots. A few hours later, she comes up to the bedroom and finds me in bed with one of her friends. I told her I was so drunk, I forgot I was married. The party kind of went down hill from that point. I feel her forcing me to drink caused the situation and she should take full responsibility.
2007-11-22 00:38:02 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It looks like most of the people agree with me, thanks! I feel much better
2007-11-22 01:21:23 · update #1
you can NEVER EVER blame someone else for ur mistakes. ur reasoning is classic for cheating men. they blame the wife or someone else. god, this is like soap opera (i dont watch em but u belong in it).
well, if u are really sorry, prove it to her. make it up to her and tell her that u were drunk. it is true though that drunk people's inhibitions are gone and their thinking processes are weak, almost non existent. but its diff from everyone. if you are truly sorry, just tell her that u never meant to do that. u love her and u never will do it. key point: make it up to her. prove to her u can be trusted and that u are saying the truth.
2007-11-22 01:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by switbaby9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I must disagee with you, as no one can force another person to drink, sure she may have made you feel like you should drink, but using the term force is just an excuse for drinking, so at the end of the day, this falls on you, not your wife, although I know how alcohol can cause a person to make bad judgement calls and do things they may not normally do, but still, come on, this is your doing, the responsibility falls on you! not your wife. I dont care how much drinking I do, I always know Im married! You are in denial and Im sure you feel some guilt, untill you learn to accept responsibility for your own actions you will be at a high risk for another fall out with your wife, I recomend that you man-up to your actions, and apologize to your wife, today! So be a man and own up to your mistakes!
2007-11-22 01:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it was her fault. Granted the liquor was a factor, but you still knew what you were doing. You just didn't care. The liquor can be to blame somewhat, and you will have to pick up the other portion of the blame. Your wife, however, giving you the shots, was just trying to help you relax and have a good time. But not with one of her friends, you were supposed to wait until after the party and celebrate with your wife. If she loves you she will forgive you, but you must say "you" are sorry and mean it and stop blaming her for something you did. Good luck buddy.
2007-11-22 00:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by angeliab418 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How interior the international ought to somebody think of how you do? Are you in a extraordinary cult or something? in basic terms by using fact a woman/lady had sexual kinfolk with a guy earlier she ever met you won't make her a cheater. your pals are patently lacking in innovations cells. of course having intercourse collectively as certainly being married does signify cheating and that's what you will possibly be able to desire to concentration on. have you ever certainly informed her (perchance countless situations for the period of your marriage) that she grew to become right into a cheater by using fact she wasn't a virgin earlier she married you? that could particularly make her opt to stray from the marriage mattress and brush aside you the way you're disrespecting her. The previous is over and has not something to do alongside with your cutting-edge existence. locate out what's erroneous alongside with your marriage and why she felt the might desire to look someplace else. in case you nonetheless have a stable commencing up then artwork on your marriage and in case you do not, get out. Neither of you will possibly be able to desire to play such infantile video games while marriage is this type of severe dedication.
2016-10-02 03:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by ioannidis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your wife tip the shots down your throat? She may have given them to you but it was your choice to drink them. So its you and you alone that is responsible for what happened. From what I know of men if they are really drunk they are unable to get an erection so you must of been aware of what you were doing , so stop blaming others and be a man.
2007-11-22 00:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dory 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your story stinks,not of any thing idiotic but naivety.Even a drunk person wouldn't screw with his eyes shut and that too when there is a party at his own home(meaning presence of many women there).Make a clean break by admission of lapse on your part and be done with it.No matter what are the consequences,atleast you can live with it without an added guilt.
2007-11-22 00:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish OJ had used this defense. He'd be in jail.
Dude, YOU are responsible for how much you drink. YOU are responsible to "remember" you are MARRIED. YOU are responsible to stay faithful to your wife. YOU YOU YOU.
If your wife can "make you do shots," YOU have other issues. Take some responsibility. Apologize for cheating and apologize for coming up with this lame excuse.
2007-11-22 01:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Richard F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg! hey, dont blame other people for the consequences of the actions u made. u are fully responsible for it and it's a lame excuse that u got drunk. being drunk doesn't give u the right nor the priviledge to cheat on your wife. grow up!
2007-11-22 00:55:32 · answer #8 · answered by *~** gp **~* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you haven't grown up! You still don't know how to say the little word NO! Grow up, be a man, and take the responsibility for your own actions. I don't think she was in the room with you with whips and chains forcing you to have sex. You wanted to and you know it. Hope your wife is smart enough to realize that! Bet, if you did drugs you couldn't say NO to them either, and would blame her for that, too!!
2007-11-22 00:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless she was holding a gun to your head, your actions are not her fault. No matter how much she encouraged you to drink, you still retained the right to say "no".
It's really a shame that you drank so much that you forgot you were married. However, you are the one who did the drinking. As long as you maintain that she brought this upon herself, instead of apologizing to everyone for your lack of self control and pledging never to drink to the level of losing your judgment again, I doubt that this situation will be able to start healing.
She's going to need to be able to forgive you and to figure out how to trust you again. In order to forgive you, you are going to have to stop putting her on the defensive by blaming her. In order to learn to trust you again, you're going to need to tell her how you are going to prevent this from ever happening again - by not giving in to pressure and drinking so much, no matter what. Best of luck to you both.
2007-11-22 00:59:30 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋