How can i have self - confidence ?

Question

I have become very self-conscious since the past 2 -3 years....even my mother tells me that i don't have a confident look on my face.Well i did feel bad at first but later on realised that wat she said was for my good and it was true as well. When i asked my relatives they said that i should participate in competitions , debates, etc in school to build confidence. It seems so easy for them to tell all this....but im really not a bold person. I'm under peer pressure....my class is full of scholars and some girls who are snobbish...i try not to let them affect my life and studies but sometimes i feel that they are very confident. Infact most of the teachers know them and even the prefects.....some of them look so good that i feel conscious of my looks....i don't want to copy them but many times unknowingly i end up doing so....im so caught up trying to please others that i feel that im losing my originality......please suggest some ways in which i can regain my confidence.

Answer 1

The confidence always build with knowledge together. If you know more, see more, learn more, hear more, you will be confidence to talk to people, to overcome most problems and be optimistic.

You're wasting much of your time wondering whether how you look, how others think of you, how you can shine in front of them etc etc. Does it really matter? Spend more time in your study rather.

I've a sister who is 1 year younger than me, prettier (I'm real ordinary) and she real shine cause she is top in MY class, she jumped year and became my classmate (not schoolmate) and she got 1st in class but i was no way near! You can imagine the competition & pressure I have. Just like you, all relatives were saying she is the best, and I'm so dumb bla bla bla.. Well, I never take this seriously and I ALWAYS telling myself that as long I win yesterday's ME, I'm good enough, and with this spirit, my results throughout my high schools and college never drop! Though I still can't win my sister, but I win myself, beat my every past semester's results! You get the point? And right now I run my own business.

Wish you can be optimistic and be happy. Just remember, confidence doesn't build just like that, you need to put in the effords and commitment. Knowledge is power, when you have that, you will shine automatically without you even know it.

Answer 2

I am sorry sweetheart, but you have to help yourself by asking certain questions of yourself questions.

Do not be a SHEEP (a slave to trends, peer pressure, media pressure etc.,) be a SHEPARD (you may not have the leadership qualities that you think you should have, but you can be Leo_wizz, and no body can be better at it, then her.).

LEAD, not be led. SNUB the snobs (they may have some mental problems), and try to make friends yourself, (that's where it starts) with those who are smarter than you (help in h.w. is nice) for maybe they are hesitant to make friends, they too need to play, cry, or shout, just like everyone else. My father use to say, “It’s better to make a smart enemy, to making a foolish friend.”

Leo_wizz is a girl with a mind of her own, who could not careless what the 'Affair d' Jour was, and did her own thing. You be yourself girl, and see the self-confidence returning.

Don't you let anyone tell you what you are, show him or her who you are. A nice uncomplicated person, who could not careless whether or not people were better off then you, but you have full faith in whatever you do,

Do not need to be a genius to make friends (they rarely do), do not have to be the beauty queen of the school to earn friends
(Superficial friendships, that last as long as your crown).

Find Leo_ and ask what her hobbies are, or whether she cares if her jeans should be low hip or high this season. I am sure you like reading (One of my bentest friends are books).
Find other things you might enjoy learning or doing. You will be fine. Your cannot please all of the people, all the time. Nor should you.

I was never a scholar, or a beauty, but from my dad, I learned, do your best, have faith in your abilities and never hurt any one knowingly. Be a good human, rather than a trendy one

Answer 3

I guess first and foremost you must realize and believe that you are unique and you have a contribution to make to this World.
Everything , including your unwitting urge to imitate your more confident classmates is actually a part of your uniqueness and you need to communicate that first to yourself and then to the whole world!
In short, be proud to be yourself and be proud that you are shy.... That is the real confidence!

Answer 4

I have a problem with women in that area on confidence I have no problem talking to men as my boss but when its women bosses I feel so low I can't speak my mind I feel as they look as me a child I just don't like how it makes me feel .But I'm working on that I have two jobs one on weekend then one on weekday both women bosses I;m actually renting a room from the second one ........long story short .............I'm sorry i lost my train of thought

Answer 5

best idea it always works for me try this out say your self cool down atleast 5 times and then breathe in and out 5 times and then open your eyes and you will feel fresh and your self-confidence will increase

Answer 6

Hey shivani

Answer 7

see my friend, you have your own uniqueness. you have your own strengths and weaknesses. find out your strengths and belive in that and move forward. your uiqueness and qualities you cant find in others. dont run behind others. you dont need to catch anybody. you have to be YOU, Leo.

Answer 8

try to speek in mirrio many times same lines usin them wen u meeet different personalities in parties.....the bst way is try to coomunicate wit urslf first



























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