I'm mature enough to raise a child?

Question

What can I say to my parents to prove to them that I'm mature enough to raise my baby? They are telling me that I have to adopt and that's final, but I want to keep my baby, and i know I can.
Although I've only just turned 15, I'm working at a job and I'm doing my best in school, and I've read up on all the pregnancy books because I'm really excited about this baby, and so is my bf now that he's come around.
I've told them that I feel ready, what can I say to them to make them understand Im not giving this child away?

curious_about_life, kudos to you, thanks for that:)) good luck as well.

I'm not expectin any1 to do my share, I hope they help but that's bout it. And I know my bf will be there for me, but it doesn't mean Im expecting anyone to get up in the night for me.

Answer 1

You have a job and that's good but a child costs an average of £180,000 to bring up. That's £10,000 a year spent on the child alone. At 15 you probably don't make that money in a year yet alone to spend on a child.

I don't believe anyone is mature enough to have a child until they have experianced it for themselves. You'll have very little sleep, no social life (expect you're friends to be very occational and not to go out much), always broke, highly stressed, etc.

You state that you've read the books, they are really not going to help you. How would you cope if you child had a problem, like autism? What would you do if you partner wants to keep his friends and you split up? How are you going to pay for the baby? What will you do when everyone is telling you what to do, you already seem stubon?

You will need your parents help and even if they give it you'll struggle and not know what has happened.

Answer 2

15 you are not even graduate from high school yet, let's ask your self these question,
1. How am I going to support my self?
2. How am I going to support this baby?
3. If I don't go to college what am I going to do with the rest of my life for a living?
4. what kind of environment my baby going to grow up in?
5. Am I strong enough to be mother and father for this baby?
There are lot more .... raising a baby at 15, is not just about love, love is easy it doesn't cost anything, but everything else will,what ever you decide to do good luck with your life and the baby.

Answer 3

Gosh, I don't know, young girls with babies .... you might feel this way now, but wait until you're struggling with schoolwork and work and baby poo and vomit and laundry on 1 hour's sleep a night, you might feel very different.

I suspect deep down that you feel your parents will get up in the middle of the night and do the feeding .... hon, if they are against keeping the baby, I don't imagine that they will do this.

You really don't know what you're getting yourself into. You need to actually live with a real live newborn baby for a week now .... then you can make an informed decision.

Answer 4

Believe me when I say that it will be 100 times harder than you could have ever imagined, BUT if you want to keep your child, don't let ANYONE tell you that you can't. Your parents can make threats and threaten to kick you out, etc... but if you choose to be a parent, you will have to make sacrifices. There isn't much advice to offer, because things work out differently for everyone, but I wish you luck in your decision.

Answer 5

Tell them they can accept that you are going to be a mother OR they are outta your life and start looking for you own place.
My friend got pregnant at 15 and her parents kicked her out, her and her boyfriend moved in together and are now happy and have a beauitful baby girl.

Answer 6

I'm 14 (15 in February) and I just found out I'm pregnant two days ago. No one can make you do anything to this baby. It's you and your boyfriends blood. Your parents may want you to but in the end, it's your choice. I am in no way giving my baby away. Although I'm still young my boyfriend and I look forward to this baby. we are already very mature, I know we can do this. Keep strong, just talk to your parents, I know it will make them mad if you try to get straightforward with them but just say, mom and dad, this is MY baby, I know what I'm capable of, and I am keeping it. You just have to tell them straight up. GOOD LUCK MOMMY :)

Answer 7

dont say anything,just prove it too them!!!! actions speak louder than words,sure you maybe young?? but better too have a good young mother than a bad mother!!!!...goodluck

Answer 8

WOW your young. However its your child... Therefore YOUR choice.