We've been married for 12yrs & still childless..I work In Dubai in order to help my family& he agreed on it..After 3 & a half yrs,I learned that he's having an affair.I immediately give up my job coz I want to save our marriage.When I confront him,he told me that I can't blame him as i took him granted as I prioritize helping my family rather than building our own family.I was stunned as I can't believe that he has dis grudge for over 12 yrs & and he didn't tell me about it.He even said that it was his 1st tym to be treated lyk a king as his mistress give her 100% attention jas 4 him.& now he said that he doesn't love me anymore.But God knows how much I love my husband,for I give up everything jas for him & i've been faithful to him since we got married.Even they live together at our own house,I still 4give him & even now that they're still 2gether,I didn't say a word coz I want to show him that I will endure everything jas to have him back.he stays weekends 2 his girl & weekdays w/ me
2007-11-21 22:34:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have a plural "marriage" and all of you live together. That doesn't mean you all three sleep together. One saying is it is better to add wives than to divorce.
There are advantages to plural marriage and you should investigate them. http://www.pro-polygamy.com/
http://www.patriarchywebsite.com/bib-patriarchy/index.htm
There are many of you out there who may disagree with me but you should understand what plural marriage is about so go read some of the information I have given and learn the advantages as well as the disadvantages.
2007-11-22 02:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband cheated on me the first time I was pregnant. He did want to have sex with me for fear of hurting the baby even though my midwife and I assured him it was perfectly fine. During my second pregnancy I told him if he still feared having sex with me then I would be okay with him finding someone else to have sex with. The conditions were that she also be married, and I would have to know when it was happening. He never did it. He travels a lot and is away from us sometimes weeks at a time. So I told him the same thing, minus the marriage requirement. He hasn't done anything. It's easy to keep track of him so I have no worries of there being anything I don't know about now. So I have found that my 'permission' has worked more like reverse psychology.
2016-05-25 00:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by marti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can except the fact than no one has any problem. I tell you , you have a weekend realtionship as well. See how he feels.
Kick his *** and take divorce. Sue him....Dubai is Muslim country. He can marry someone with your concern. But week end Mistress.........his head will be chopped.
Get out of this mess. Pray to God and remember one live to live. Do not stay in hell on earth cause eventually you will be there soon. Have some fun while you are still kicking. Send you dauter to Hostel if you may. Save the young soul from this mess.
2007-11-21 22:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by JH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never win him back by allowing to live with her and be with you on the weak end.
He'll come around if he needs something or needs help. He'll come over if he's fighting with her.
Will you ever get him back? I don't think so. You along time ago.
I'm sorry.
You don't want him, you don't want to be with one who gas no respect for you.
It was his fault and his fault alone. Cheating is cheating, if you unhappy in a marriage or just a relationship then you remove yourself from it. You don't sneak around while still in a relationship or marriage.
By letting this continue your serving him his cake and letting him eat it to and the icing on the cake.
You need to find some professional help to help you through this, and so you feel better about yourself as a person so you will never allow someone to ever treat you like this.
Let me ask, does your husband want a divorce? What do you think about divorcing him?
He's probably not pushing for a divorce. If you witnesses, pictures, video and phone conversions.
You file for a divorce for adultery, and in my state he would loose everything you have together and would probably end up owing you.
Good Luck and seek help!
2007-11-21 23:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump that loser. Never settle for being number 2 in your husbands life. There is someone out there who will treat you right and won't use you. Aren't you worried about STD or even worse AIDS? By now you probably have low self-esteem but think about everything weigh your options both good and bad. If the bad out way the good, you should try to move on. Let's see when the mistress has him all to herself, how long she will be bother. As far as both of them living there, he is showing you NO RESPECT at all. Divorce his butt and get half of everything. Pray over things and follow your mind, not your heart or it will continue to keep getting broke.
2007-11-22 00:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kasey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a kept wife, you are a doormat. You are allowing yourself to be treated this way he isn't ever going to love you and respect you. He knows he can treat you like trash and you will stick around and take it. The only thing you can do is either stay and learn to be quiet and put up with it (because people will get tired of hearing you whine, when you allow yourself to be treated this way) or leave and get a divorce and find a real man who respects and love you and is faithful to you.
2007-11-21 22:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this the same story of my ex wife...she really loves me so much we are married for 6 yrs. she give me all expensive things she love to do shopping for me but time comes 7 yrs. ago that i fell inlove with another woman actually when she discover that i have an affair after 1 month she become pregnant just to save our marriage but a child cannot save the marriage, so if i where u let him go look at my ex now she understand everything and where just a friend
2007-11-24 11:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you allow your husband's mistress to be in your home, then sorry, but you have what's coming to you. Why in gods name would you put up with a man like that?? You obviously have no self esteem or confidence left. You really need to leave this relationship... as I see it, it will only get worse. You say you will endure everything just to have him back??...then prepare yourself for the worst....cause that's all you will get from this marriage...sorry... but that's the bottom line honey.
2007-11-21 22:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Racer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister don't develop a slow killing heart attack. The pain of endurance will eat u slowly and u may die. Leave the stupid full. He should have told u how he felt 12 yrs ago. Such characters can provoke one to kill. Leave the idiot alone. He is not the only man in the world.
2007-11-21 23:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by michellelar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, its my humble opinion that you are the one with the problem here. Your hubby is an ***. And your allowing him to be an ***. I say let the home wrecker have him, let her be the idiot who "showers him with 100% attention" He sounds like an infant, not a grown man. Its crazy to me that you WANT him. Look what you have given up, your self esteem being highest on the list.
2007-11-21 23:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by beentheredonethat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋