I am a very emotional girl.....i find myself getting moody/jealous or worried about the smallest things.....
examples are....my boyfriend not replying when i txt him....or him acting a little distant - i can turn that into him going off me and i can worry myself sick that its soon gunna be over...and i am losing him
I am always obsessing over what i cant have, and this makes me moody...i came back from uni this yr and dont have alot of mates in the area...id like more and i get jealous of my bf as he has a massive group of mates and they are constantly wanting to see him.....
im feeling in competition with them alot of the time,although its me making me feel like that not him...i feel my life revolves around him alot and i dont like that but i dont have alot of mates so its hard to change that.
Anyone got any advice for me, i need to snap out of it as im causing issues with my bf, and i dont want that as hes really great....i think hes the one which is why i wana sort this out!
2007-11-21 22:23:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seems like ur very emotional...talk to you man and ur family and i am sure that they will beable to give you a bit og guidance.
2007-11-22 20:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must suck to feel that way. And I can clearly see that you understand that your obsessive feelings aren't quite right and that you would like to be rid of them.
I think the best thing for you to do would be the following:
a) Get to know your boyfriends mates, and hang out with them too. They cant be all bad.
b) pick up a hobby or a part time class to fill your time and keep you busy. Then your boyfriend will be wondering why you're not always replying to HIS messsages!!
Is there a reason you have started feeling emotional? Have you gone on/off the pill? Maybe you should think about what has recently changed in your day-to-day life.
2007-11-21 22:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This just means you have gotten too much into your coccon/bubble of happyness and safty... however now you need to get out and these are all signs...
It will be hard but you need to get out and make new friends do new hobbies start new activities and get your own life back. Plan to do things when you know your bf will be going out with his mates so you can have more alone time together and you wont feel so left out when he is doing those things.
I realize that you being moody means this is the last thing in the world you feel like doing, but after you push that initial barrier of awkwardness it will do you the world of good, i prommise...
It will also give you and your bf new things to talk about, and should help bring some freshness into your life and your relationsip...
Have fun, and remember, get out there, take some risks, and do some things you would never have though of doing just for the hell of it!
Dont be afraid and dont keep yourself in that moody bubble anymore girl, you deserve so much better, the world is always your oyster!
xxx
2007-11-21 22:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You seem to be obsessing needlessly as it appears by your writings that your bf is not doing anything wrong. Obsessing about what you can or cannot have right now, is just wasting alot of your time and energy. Try channel ling all that energy into joining a group of some kind...try joining some forums and make some friends. If you can't seem to stop, then I really suggest some counseling... it may help you alot. Best of luck to you!!
2007-11-21 22:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Racer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell ur bf whats going with you that u need to fell secure with him. If he really loves you, he will go for an extra mile for you to feel secure like text u back right away, call you 10 times a day things like that. Relationship its all about give and take.
2007-11-21 22:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like ur in late teens early 20's! you seem very insecure, you need to take control of YOUR life! do something physical go for a run! and when you feel like you can't run anymore keep going! It reduces stress. Also do u have your period? I used to be a raving lunatic the week b4 the week of! know why men don't trust women? would you trust someone who bleed 7 days out of every mth and didn't die! Alittle humor! Rent a funny movie! laughter releases endorphins! RELAX! if this continues please see a doctor you could be having anxiety attacks......but try running first! i promise you'll feel better. My oldest is in Iraq and if I didn't exhaust myself everyday. I'd be locked up some where! So count ur blessings( u'd be amazed) and find some faith! Good luck!
2007-11-21 22:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by brenda f 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Shally...
It really sounds like you like this guy ALOT! *duh*
But I would suggest that you try allowing his friends to be your friend too...that way you could spend time with him and your friends together...and not feel like you are in competition for his attention.
At the same time I would also suggest that you find your own circle of friends too so that you could spend some time apart...see this is also healthy for a relationship.
I hope you manage to sort this matter out for yourself.
Take care ~hugs~
S.
2007-11-21 22:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Sonsie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your question got my attention because I have often asked myself he same thing. As I've gotten older, I find that talking to him, telling him how you feel does help. If for some reason it doesn't, a little counseling might do it for you.
2007-11-22 00:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by WildlifeArt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 03:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling and to be single until you learn to love and respect yourself. Until then all you are is poison to a relationship. You are insecure and this is a nasty recipe for disaster in any relationship. You cannot give 100 percent in a relationship if you aren't 100 percent okay with yourself.
2007-11-21 23:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just change the way you think stop worrying.you are going to chase him away.relax who wants to be around a person who only thinks about themselves.go and met his friends or make some.
2007-11-21 22:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by thank u man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋