Long story cut short, my husband's parents are coming over for thanksgiving. I do not mind these people normally. However I feel that my mother in law mentioning that she always had their dinner ready EARLY (around 2 pm) was like asking me to rearrange my thanksgiving dinner plans, and I'm rather offended. I do not like eating dinner at 2 pm and I will not eat dinner at 2 pm as I am used to eating thanksgiving dinner around 5, 5:30 at the latest. Also she did not have any plans to come over and "hang out" with her youngest (of 2) sons. She literally asked us to call her when dinner was about finished!! I think it's so she can come over, stuff her face quickly, then leave me with dishes for five people (DH will be asleep on the sofa inevitably.) Nevermind that I have lots of cocktail finger food available and would enjoy having them over for football and munchies.
I'm exasperated at this point, and talking to my husband does absolutely nothing but put him on the defensive. HELP!!!
2007-11-21 22:19:13 · 3 answers · asked by bostongirl_1981 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when I said finished, I meant when dinner was about DONE, as in ready to eat. as in 5 minutes before the bird is about to come out of the oven.
and I also forgot to mention that to begin with, his family is dysfunctional.
2007-11-21 22:46:09 · update #1
I'm with free angel... I just MIGHT serve dinner on paper plates and take over the TV. I pay for it lol
2007-11-21 22:51:58 · update #2
Tell her dinner will be served at 5:30 p.m. and if anyone has a problem with that, they can stay home. Serve food on paper plates. Take over the TV yourself and enjoy the munchies that you have prepared while watching what you want.
2007-11-21 22:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that your mother in law feels that way? Maybe it's just a misunderstanding. Marriage isn't only about you and your husband - it's about two families coming together. I think you just need to talk to your mother in law and your husband even if he doesn't want to. Communication is key. Anyways, eating dinner at 2 pm is ridiculous to begin with and why in the heck would she want you guys to call you when you're about to be finished with dinner? That's just....odd....I hope it's all just a misunderstanding or miscommunication. Best of luck! Don't be too stressed out. There's always next year too.
2007-11-22 06:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a holiday. Why don't you try compromising a bit. Have dinner at 3:30.
Just tell your husband that he will have to call his mother if she only wants to come over, eat, and leave.
2007-11-22 06:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋